What's fair for Christmas when you have 50/50?

Dec 22·1 min read

So our agreement says we alternate Christmas Eve/Day, I get this year. But my 6yo son is asking if Santa comes to both houses lol. My ex and I aren't exactly friendly but also not hostile. I'm thinking maybe we could do like a "Christmas morning" thing at each house so he gets to open presents with both of us? Or is that trying too hard to make something work that... isn't? Curious how other people handle this without it being super awkward.

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FFrank K.Regularjust now

The fact that you and your ex can even discuss this without hostility is huge. Some divorced dads would just compete harder. Props for thinking about what actually matters to your son.

FFinn M.Regularjust now

Question: does he stay overnight on Christmas Eve at your place? That might affect whether 'morning at each house' is actually feasible logistically.

SSam F.New Dad22h ago

I did this with my ex and it actually made things easier, not harder. Coordinating sounds annoying but it eliminated 'why does Dad's Santa give me less stuff' arguments. Both sides do Christmas morning, both sides feel like Christmas.

DDom F.Regularjust now

The 'Santa comes to both houses' question is adorable and also a scheduling nightmare lol. Your solution sounds solid—morning presents at each place so he doesn't miss out anywhere.

HHarvey L.Regular8h ago

This is genuinely the right call. I've seen kids get stressed about which parent's house is the "real" Christmas. Double Christmas mornings takes that pressure off and honestly kids just want presents twice so everyone wins lol