55/45 split with me getting them basically every other week plus Wednesdays. Took 18 months of back and forth but we finally settled. Feels weird to have it in writing now instead of just doing whatever worked. Kids seem relieved that it's decided. Starting the new schedule next month. Nervous but r...
Been dating someone for about 8 months and she's really great with my kids. But my ex is losing it about it, threatening to restrict my time with them because she says my girlfriend is a bad influence. For the record she's not, she's a teacher. I feel like I can't have a life because of this threat....
Wife wanted to be closer to her parents so we picked up and moved to rural Montana from NYC. The quiet is NICE but dude I miss pizza that doesn't suck, having options for anything, and just being around different kinds of people. Kids are way more outdoor focused now which is good. They're not glued...
First couple years were brutal, constant fighting through text and email, kids upset every transition day, the whole thing was a mess. But around year 2.5 something just clicked. Ex started dating someone who wasn't a jerk, we both got past the anger, realized we both just want to be good dads and m...
Keep getting these lawyer letters from my ex's attorney over stuff that's in the custody agreement already. It's costing me thousands of dollars just to respond to threats. I'm starting to think she just wants to drain my bank account because she knows I don't have money like she does. Anyone dealt ...
My 4 year old has watched Bluey like 47 times this month. I can literally recite every episode at this point. Wife thinks it's fine, I'm losing my mind. At least he's not asking for toys every 5 seconds I guess.
Five years ago I was sleeping til noon on weekends and eating cereal for dinner. Now I'm up at 6am making packed lunches and thinking about college savings plans. Honestly miss the freedom sometimes but there's something different about having three little humans depending on me. Never thought I'd b...
Used to commute an hour each way, missed everything. My kids barely knew me. Got a remote job two years ago and honestly it changed everything. I'm home for lunch, I see them after school, I help with homework. Miss the social aspect of the office and adult conversation but being present for my kids...
Just found out my 10 year old spent 40 bucks on in game currency through our family iPad without asking. Said he was just trying to get enough gems or whatever for a game his friends were playing. We talked about it and he understands it was wrong but how do I prevent this from happening again? Shou...
My old Weber is finally dying after like 15 years of service. Anyone here use a Traeger or similar pellet grill? I love smoking stuff but the temperature control on my current setup is a pain. Trying to decide if the upgrade is worth it or if I should just stick with charcoal. Wife thinks any grill ...
Spent the last 3 weekends putting together my first real gaming PC and holy crap it actually works. Got it running at 1440p 144fps on the games I actually care about. My kids think I'm insane for spending this much but I earned it after dealing with their chaos all week. Now if I can just get 2 hour...
Started seeing a therapist about 2 months ago after my wife basically told me I needed to get my stuff together. I was skeptical at first, not gonna lie. But honestly it's been good to talk to someone who doesn't know my family and isn't judging me. Learning that I bottle everything up and that's pr...
Been trying really hard to be the spiritual leader in my home like my pastor talks about. But honestly I fail at it constantly. I lose patience with my kids, I watch stuff I shouldn't when everyone's asleep, I don't pray like I should. My oldest asked me why we read the Bible if I don't act like it....
Everything just hit me at once. Work has been insane, my kids were fighting before school, and I just sat in my car for 15 minutes and cried. This is my second time in like a month. I love my family but I feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water. I think I might need to talk to my doctor abo...
Started this thing where I pray for each of my kids individually every morning before work. Takes me like 15 minutes. I pray for their safety, their hearts, their friendships, whatever comes to mind. It's changed my whole perspective on parenting. Instead of trying to control everything I'm asking G...