We just had our second kid 2 months ago. Wife's doing great, seems happy, adjusting well. But I feel... empty? Detached from the baby even though I wanted him so badly. I keep thinking about all the things I messed up with my first son and how I'll probably do it again. At night I get these intrusiv...
So my wife has been on maternity leave and I'm back at the office. She's asking me to do at least one night feeding during the week so she can get a solid 4-hour block of sleep. I get it, I really do, but I'm already running on fumes and my job is... demanding. The commute alone kills me. Has anyone...
I've been using this app to actually SEE where my time goes when I'm trying to work and parent simultaneously. It's kind of eye-opening seeing that I spent 1.5 hours yesterday on actual work tasks across a 9-hour day at home. The free version is solid enough. Highly recommend if you're struggling to...
My wife can listen to our 4-month-old cry for 10 minutes troubleshooting what's wrong. I last about 90 seconds before I'm internally screaming. She's not acting superior about it or anything, it's just biological I guess? It makes me feel a bit inadequate tbh. Like she's the natural parent and I'm j...
Lost my temper at the grocery store over something stupid. My kids saw the worst version of me. Didn't handle it with grace, didn't model Christ at all. The worst part is they're watching. They're always watching. How do you recover from moments like this and actually teach them about repentance and...
Wanted to give a shout out to all the wives out there who are doing the heavy lifting with the kids. Mine packed lunches for a week, got them to soccer practice early, and still had energy to help with homework. Meanwhile I'm sitting here pretending I did something important because I took out the t...
My 9yo struck out twice in his game this weekend and I could see him getting frustrated in the dugout. Last at-bat, bases loaded, he gets a hit up the middle and brings in two runs. The whole team goes nuts. But what got me was after the game he said "Dad I'm glad I got another chance." That's some ...
Strung up a slackline between two trees in the backyard for my kids. They loved it for like 3 days. Then my 8yo got overconfident, fell off, and knocked the wind out of himself. He's fine but holy crap I was scared. He refuses to go on it now and honestly I'm not pushing it. Keeping it up anyway be...
Wake up, commute, work, come home, parent solo while wife's in meetings, bedtime routine, repeat. Weekends are just catching up on chores and meal prep. I literally cannot remember the last time I did something just for me that wasn't scrolling Reddit at 11pm. I think I'm depressed but also maybe ju...
My kids are 4, 7, and 9. I love them so much but I also... don't want to play with them sometimes. Like they'll ask and I just feel this exhaustion and irritation. I feel like a piece of shit about it. I provide, I show up, but I'm not PRESENT the way I should be. My wife asked if I wanted to talk t...
I genuinely can't believe it. He's 9, plays in a pretty competitive league in Austin, and this year it just... clicked. The team has amazing chemistry, the coach is fantastic, and my kid actually made friends which was huge since he switched schools. They're heading to regionals in two weeks. I'm no...
Our daughter is 8 weeks old and I'm struggling way more than I expected. Wife had the hard pregnancy, the labor—I logically know that—but I can't shake this feeling that I'm not doing enough, that I'm a terrible dad already, that everyone would be better off without me around. I'm not having thought...
Just started watching it and it's genuinely entertaining but also I keep thinking about the lack of parental supervision and supervision themes and whether I should be worried this show is warping my expectations of parenting. Like Homelander is an insane villain but the show keeps making me think a...
Had my second one last week. First time was at work and I thought I was having a heart attack. Went to urgent care - totally fine. But now I'm anxious about having another one and that anxiety is probably causing them. It's like my brain's turned against me. Looking into therapy but wanted to see if...
So I got ambitious and let my 8yo do a "volcan" (volcano, but he says volcan) with baking soda and food coloring. Looked online real quick, thought it would be fine. He decided to quadruple the vinegar amount "to make it more epic." We have red dyed vinegar in places I didn't even know existed. On t...