She keeps texting me last minute asking to swap weekends. Like I get it, life happens, but I make plans with my kids and she treats the schedule like a suggestion. Last month she did this 4 times. I finally told her no and she got mad at me for being inflexible. How do I handle this without making i...
Got back to the office 3 weeks ago after 12 weeks off with my second kid and I'm losing it. My boss immediately loaded me up with 3 projects, my inbox had like 500 emails, and I'm still getting up 2-3 times a night with the baby. My wife is back part-time so I'm doing morning duty then jumping on ca...
Five years ago I was completely different. Travel, late nights, no responsibility, and honestly I thought having kids would ruin my life. Met my wife and everything shifted. Had our first kid and something just clicked. Now I can't imagine my life any other way. I don't miss the old me at all. The f...
3 years clean as of yesterday. I'm not the same person I was. Old me was angry, unreliable, my kids barely knew me. I missed my daughter's first day of kindergarten because I was hungover. Now I'm present, I show up, I remember things. I rebuilt my marriage. I get hugged by my kids now instead of th...
Got the call yesterday. Big promotion, big money, but it means I'd basically never see my kids during the week. My youngest is 4 and still asks why daddy works so much. I told my boss I need to think about it but honestly I'm torn. The financial security would be huge but I already miss so much. Any...
Just moved to the south after living up north my whole life and I'm noticing something. People here still value courtesy, they still say yes sir and no ma'am, people help their neighbors without asking. It's refreshing. Feels like the rest of the country lost something we desperately need. Not sure ...
After 8 months of legal back and forth, we finally signed the papers yesterday. 50/50 custody with me getting them Mon-Wed and every other weekend. It's not perfect but honestly I'm just relieved to have something official in writing. No more arguments about drop offs and pick ups. Already made a sh...
Changed my son this morning and got absolutely wrecked. Full coverage, up the back, down the legs. I was standing there in my underwear holding everything at arm's length trying to figure out my next move. My wife walks in laughing and goes 'Welcome to parenthood.' That's when I finally understood w...
My 7 year old has been saying she doesn't want to go to her dad's on his weekends. Says she's not comfortable but won't tell me why. It's breaking my heart but I don't want to push her. Ex says she's fine when she's there. How do I handle this? Do I have to make her go?
Splitting from their mom is happening and I need to have the conversation. They're 7 and 10. I want them to know it's not their fault and that I'll always be their dad. She wants to tell them together but I'm worried she'll try to turn them against me. What did you guys say and how did it go?
I've been buying whatever is on sale at the grocery store but lately I'm thinking I want to step up my coffee game. Don't want to spend crazy money but also tired of mediocre coffee every morning. Do I need a fancy grinder and machine or can I just get better beans? Help a sleep deprived dad out.
Had some buddies over Saturday and broke out the new smoker I picked up. Did a 12 hour brisket that turned out pretty decent honestly. The kids helped me prep the rub and they were way more interested in the process than I expected. Might be a new family thing. Anyone else find grilling to be weirdl...
Started an SSRI last week per my doctor's recommendation and I'm nervous about it. Worried about side effects and whether I actually need it or if I can just tough it out. But honestly my anxiety has been pretty bad lately, affecting my sleep and making it hard to be present with the kids. Part of m...
8 weeks at home with the baby and I've never felt more fulfilled but also more afraid. I'm worried I'll miss everything. My boss already texted me about jumping on a project before I'm even back. The money is good but I feel like I'm choosing between being present or being responsible. Did anyone el...
3 month old just gave me a real smile not just gas and I absolutely lost it. My wife laughed at me for tearing up but man, that moment made every sleepless night worth it. Never thought I'd be that guy getting emotional over baby stuff but here we are.