Quit drinking 18 months ago
Used to be a beer guy. Every night after work, weekends, you name it. Told myself it was just unwinding but my wife knew it was a problem. Kept making promises and breaking them. F
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Used to be a beer guy. Every night after work, weekends, you name it. Told myself it was just unwinding but my wife knew it was a problem. Kept making promises and breaking them. F
Three years ago I was probably 80 pounds overweight, working a desk job, eating drive thru for every meal. My kid asked me to play soccer with him and I had to sit down after 5 min
My 5yo told a completely nonsensical joke that made zero sense but she was so proud of herself that we all just lost it. My wife was crying laughing. In the before times I'd go out
So I'm standing there at 2 AM with my 3 month old screaming bloody murder and she finally falls asleep on my chest. And I just start crying. Not sad crying. Just this overwhelming
Watched my 4 year old sing in his school recital and I just lost it. Happy tears but still. Before becoming a dad I would've probably been uncomfortable even feeling that way. Some
Just realized I dropped 1200 bucks this month on toys, clothes, activities, and random stuff my kids don't even need. Pre-dad me would never. I used to save aggressively and have a
Looking for books, podcasts, articles, anything really about maintaining a sense of self while being a parent. I feel like I've read 500 sleep training guides but nothing about kee
Seriously though, I used to sleep until like 10 on weekends. Now I'm up at 5:15 no matter what because my son's internal clock is broken. Even on days when my wife says she'll hand
Real talk, I used to sleep until like 10 on weekends without guilt. Now my 3 year old is up at 5:30 every single morning regardless of when he went to bed. My wife and I trade off
Real question. Because I love my kids more than anything but I also miss the freedom and autonomy and just not being responsible for another human's entire life 24/7. Some days are
Before kids I was absolutely gunning for that promotion. Stayed late, took extra projects, the whole thing. Now I'm the guy who leaves at 5:30 sharp and honestly I'm fine with it.
So last Saturday my wife watched the kids for a few hours and I hit up my old CrossFit box that I used to go to 5 days a week. I walked in expecting to feel like I was back in my e
Honest question. I used to be the guy who could wake up at 11am on Saturday and just... exist. Now I'm up at 6 with my 2 year old asking for pancakes. Don't get me wrong, I love my
Confession: I was really scared before my first kid was born. Thought I'd resent the loss of freedom and feel trapped. And don't get me wrong the first year was ROUGH and sometimes
I used to be that guy who could talk about music production for hours. Had a whole setup in my apartment. Now I'm covered in spit-up and I can barely remember the last album I list
Two years ago I was completely glued to my phone, doom scrolling for hours, checking work emails at night, taking pictures of food nobody asked to see. My 5 year old literally call
So I was grilling last Saturday and my son came running over. Instead of thinking 'ugh kids are annoying' like old me would have, I got this weird proud feeling and spent the next
I thought I'd miss the freedom. Instead I miss being patient with my own self. Used to be cool when I'd mess up. Now I try to be perfect because I'm teaching someone to live. That
I don't mean that in a depressing way because I love my kids more than anything. But man, I miss just sitting in my car with nobody talking to me for like 20 minutes. Or being able
Trade off nobody warns you about. My wife and I are a real team now, like actually solving problems together. But my best friends? Haven't hung out with them in 18 months. We text