The divorce changed everything about who I am
3 years post divorce and I'm not the same guy. Used to hide a lot of stuff, didn't talk about feelings, just powered through. Had to do a lot of therapy to be a better dad and that
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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3 years post divorce and I'm not the same guy. Used to hide a lot of stuff, didn't talk about feelings, just powered through. Had to do a lot of therapy to be a better dad and that
Left my corporate job 3 years ago to start my own business and I don't recognize myself anymore. Used to be all about impressing people at the office, climbing the ladder, having t
So I quit my job at a marketing firm back in 2022. Was making good money, hated every second of it, missed my kids growing up. My wife made enough that we could swing it if we cut
Got divorced 3 years ago after 15 years together. Thought my life was over. Turns out I'm actually a better person when I'm not miserable. Got my own place, decorated it however I
Hit my heaviest at 280. Had a heart scare at 42 and decided enough was enough. Two years of gym, counting calories, running, all that. Down to 195 now and I feel amazing physically
I was a stay at home dad for five years after my divorce. Learned to braid hair, pack school lunches like a pro, and watch way too many Disney movies. Just married an amazing woman
Used to work 60 hour weeks in finance. Made good money but barely saw my kids. My son asked me last year why I didn't come to his school field day. That hit different. Took a job t
Don't get me wrong, being a dad is the best thing that's ever happened to me. But man, I miss sleeping past 6am on weekends. I miss going to concerts without worrying about a babys
She left when the kids were 4 and 6. I had to learn how to do braids, how to pack lunches, how to manage a household on my own while working full time. I went from being the guy wh
Two years ago I was basically sedentary. Worked from home, sat all day, went to the fridge during breaks instead of the gym. I'm not gonna lie, the first few weeks of running were
I don't even know where to start. Five years ago I was a mess. Drinking every night, missing my kids's school events, sleeping till noon on weekends, my wife was ready to leave. To
It's weird being on the other side of this. I worked my ass off, changed everything about how I eat and move, and the physical results are obvious. But what's really messing with m
Got sober 10 years ago after my second DUI and my wife threatening to leave. A decade is a long time and I'm basically a different person now. Don't miss the hangovers or the shame
My father was checked out emotionally my whole childhood. Worked 80 hours a week, came home tired, barely knew my name. I swore I'd be different. Now I'm coaching my kids' soccer,
Started getting fit after my dad had a heart attack when I was 40. Got serious about the gym, cut out the fast food, the whole thing. Dropped 80 lbs over 18 months and felt amazing
Left my job as a marketing manager making decent money to be home with the kids while my wife went back to work. Best and hardest decision I've made. Miss the adult conversations a
I was that guy who swore he wouldnt turn into his father or lose his identity or whatever. Five years and two kids later and I am absolutely my father. I own a grill I actually use
Before I had kids I thought people who bragged about waking up early were insufferable. Now I'm that guy. I miss sleeping past 7 but I gotta admit theres something about having two
Used to spend every weekend on my motorcycle or at the gym. Havent been on the bike in like three years. Started staying home more after my daughter was born and honestly I thought
3 years sober as of today. Not going to lie, the first 6 months were the hardest thing I've ever done. Lost friends who were drinking buddies, had to actually deal with my feelings