Genuinely asking. I hear people talk about newborn smell and cherishing it but I'm at 10 weeks with my daughter and mostly I feel numb and exhausted. Everyone keeps saying "enjoy it, it goes so fast" which just stresses me out more because I'm not enjoying it and I feel like I'm failing. Is there an...
So apparently there was a reason the instructions came with like 50 pages. Thought I could eyeball it and save some time lol. Got about halfway through before realizing I'd installed part of the A-frame backwards. Took it all apart, started over, finally got it up. The kids think it's amazing but my...
She's been pretty patient with the whole depression thing but the other day she was like "you need to ask me for help instead of just shutting down." And I was like... but what do I ask for? Like "can you make dinner?" feels weak. I should be able to handle that stuff. But she's right that I end up ...
I use: - **Slack** (deleted app from my phone, only check on computer during work hours) - **Google Calendar** (color coded so work blocks are obvious) - **Freedom** (blocks distracting sites after 6pm) - **Notion** (personal life planning separate from work stuff) The Slack deletion was probably t...
Not trying to be a downer but I'm struggling with this. My wife and I used to have a pretty active sex life before our son was born (he's 6 months now) and now it feels like she doesn't even want me to touch her. We've tried talking about it but she just says she's exhausted and touched-out from the...
Used to be I'd leave the office and that was it - work brain switched off. Now WFH 4 days/week and I literally can't turn it off. Having dinner with my family but mentally reviewing emails. Helping my 5yo with homework while thinking about a project deadline. I'm not really present anywhere. And wh...
Got both kids down by 7:45 without any "one more story" negotiations or bathroom trips. They're both asleep. It's only 8:30pm and they're ASLEEP. I'm genuinely not sure what I did differently but I'm writing this down and never deviating from it again.
So he watched this channel about space (Crash Course Kids) and now he's obsessed with planets. Like, he's reading books about Mars, making drawings, asking me actual smart questions. His teacher was shocked. I just wanted to share because everyone talks about how bad YouTube is for kids, and yeah t...
We've been hybrid (2 days in, 3 home) for two years. Now upper management wants everyone back. My wife manages her own schedule so childcare could work, but like... why? Our team is scattered across 3 states, half the meetings are on Zoom anyway, and my commute is 45 minutes each way. Do I push bac...
Apparently he's been noticing when other kids are upset and bringing them tissues or their favorite toys. We didn't teach him this specifically—he just started doing it. My wife and I both teared up when we heard. Feels like we're maybe not completely screwing this up?
Got served yesterday. She's claiming I "prioritize work over parenting" because I had to reschedule a weekend last month (work emergency, paid for her to take them to an activity instead). My lawyer says it's not a strong case but like... this costs money I don't have. And fighting in court feels li...
So my son's been asking for more iPad time after school and I've been saying no because he already gets 30 mins in the morning before school. My wife thinks I'm being harsh and that 1.5-2 hours total isn't that bad "compared to what other kids get." But like... he's got homework, sports 3x a week, a...
Getting real tired of all this talk about toxic masculinity and how we need to raise sensitive soft boys. Nothing wrong with teaching your son to be strong, to work hard, to be disciplined and take care of his family. That's not toxic that's LEADERSHIP. We're supposed to be raising men not apologizi...
His friend group moved their gaming chat to Discord and now I'm trying to figure out what Discord even is. From what I can tell it's just chat for gaming? But I'm seeing posts online about predators using it to target kids. I don't want to be the "no Discord" parent but I also don't want to be naiv...
Wanted to share a win because I see a lot of posts here about feeling trapped in demanding jobs. I switched from an aggressive startup role to a B2B SaaS company that lets me do 7-3 instead of 8-6. Lost about $12k/year but gained back 10+ hours with my kids (ages 5 and 8) every single week. My wife ...