I'm genuinely asking—what counts as self-care when you literally cannot be alone for more than 12 minutes? I tried the "take a bath" advice and my 4yo and 7yo both ended up in the bathroom asking me questions. I've heard people talk about hobbies but like... when? My wife works late 2 nights a week ...

My 3-month-old is finally on a decent sleep schedule and I'm thinking about getting back to CrossFit like 4x a week. My wife thinks I'm crazy and that I should wait longer. Ngl I'm going insane without exercise. But also... am I abandoning her? This is my first kid so I genuinely don't know what's r...

We're paying $2,400/month for one kid in the Seattle area. They just announced a 12% increase effective next month. That's basically another car payment. My wife makes less than what we're paying in daycare. Like genuinely considering if she should just stay home at this point but she doesn't want t...

I have a conference next month (3 nights in Vegas) and I hate how this is making me feel. Logically I know my kids will be fine with my wife. But I keep catastrophizing - what if my 5yo gets sick? What if something happens at school? What if they forget I exist lol. This is my second trip this year ...

Quick question - when something's going on with the kids (like school issues or medical stuff), do you tell your manager? I've always kept it private but lately I'm realizing that pretending everything is fine might actually be making me less effective at work. My boss mentioned I seemed distracted ...

What's everyone doing for daily screen time? We've been saying 1 hour on school days but summer's here and I don't want to be a total tyrant about it. Don't want them glued to iPads all day but also like... sometimes I need 20 minutes of peace to make dinner. What's reasonable?

We got the Snoo on a Craigslist deal (like $400 instead of $1500 lol) when our son was born. Seven months later - it's genuinely the best thing we bought. He slept in it way better than the regular Pack and Play we had with our daughter. Is it worth the full MSRP? Probably not. Is it worth hunting f...

Been seeing a therapist since March after my wife basically sat me down and said "this isn't working." I've got two kids (8 and 11) and I was just... checked out. Drinking too much, snapping at everyone, lying in bed scrolling at 2am because sleep felt pointless. My therapist is helping me realize a...

**Setup I'm using for my 10yo's Android tablet:** - Google Family Link (free, built-in) - Screen time limits by app category - App approval queue (I have to approve new apps) - Safe Search enabled - Can remotely lock the device Better than I expected honestly. Not perfect but way better than trying...

I'm fortunate that my company lets me leave at 4 to pick up my kids from school. But every single day I get these vibes when I shut down my laptop early: - Jennifer from marketing still has her Slack status as Active - My boss sent an email at 3:55pm - There's still 3 hours of "normal" workday left ...

Okay so I'm not complaining, I adore my kids, but I'm curious what everyone else misses from before. For me it's the spontaneity. Wanted to drive 4 hours to a brewery? Done. Wanted to stay out until 2am on a weeknight? No problem. Now every single thing requires planning, backup plans, and honestly ...

Taking my two kids camping at the state park this weekend. First time doing this without my wife coming along. I'm nervous about like a million things. Do I have the tent set up right? Will the kids actually sleep in sleeping bags? What if someone gets hurt? But I also think this could be really coo...

So my wife is on this home organization kick after watching some Netflix show, and she's decided our garage needs to be converted into a craft/hobby space for her. Which, fine, I get it. But I've got my workbench setup where I actually FIX things and work on projects with my 7yo son. She's suggestin...

She lets them stay up til 10pm on her weekends. I have them bedtime at 8:30. They come back to my house wrecked, crying over everything, can't focus at school. When I mentioned it, she told me I'm "too rigid" and that kids need to "relax and have fun" with one parent. Which... okay, but then *I* ge...

In like 15 moves. Not gonna lie, I'm both proud and slightly devastated. He's been playing at school for a few months. Started teaching him some basic stuff when he asked but clearly I'm the limiting factor here. Anyway he wants to join the chess club so we're letting him. Pretty cool to watch him f...