I don't regret leaving but man I miss the simple stuff. I miss not having to plan my entire life around pickup schedules. I miss my kids being in one house. I miss sleeping past 6am on my off days without worrying about being ready for pickup. I miss my family dinner time being just natural instead ...
I provide for my family, I'm there most evenings and weekends, but I still feel like I'm failing because I'm not there for every moment. My wife says I'm being ridiculous but the mom guilt I see her describe sometimes, I feel a version of that. Like I should be making more money OR spending more tim...
So our custody order locks us into a pretty rigid 50/50 split during school year. Kid wants to do a 2 week soccer camp this summer that would mess with the normal schedule. I asked my ex if we could swap some days around and she said we'd need to modify the agreement formally. That seems like total ...
My wife is breastfeeding and I feel kind of useless honestly. She's doing all the feeding and I'm trying to help by doing diapers and holding the baby after, but I feel like I'm not bonding with him the same way. Plus I see her struggling with latching issues and I can't really fix it. Any other dad...
Won't go into all the details but it was a long legal battle. I have my kids 50% of the time now which is what I wanted. The thing is I feel kind of guilty about it even though I know I did nothing wrong. My ex is telling people I 'took her kids away' and now my oldest is picking up on the tension. ...
My dad got me really into fishing as a kid and I haven't been in forever. Bought a decent rod and reel last month and went out to the local lake for the first time in ages. Caught a couple small bass and just sat there watching the water for hours. It was so quiet and peaceful. My kids want to come ...
Man, I don't even recognize the guy I was before my kids were born. I was that dude who'd wake up at 6am on Saturday to hit the gym, then grab beers with the guys until midnight. Had this whole identity wrapped up in being the "fun" friend who was always down for whatever. Now? I'm the dad who gets...
My 12 year old has been with his mom more and more. He used to love my weekends but now he keeps asking if he can skip. Found out his mom's new boyfriend is letting him play video games all night and doesn't give him chores. My place has rules and expectations. Custody agreement says I still get him...
Married my wife when her kids were 4 and 7. Biggest life change imaginable. Used to be pretty selfish with my time and now everything revolves around school schedules, soccer games, dentist appointments. Some days are insane and I miss just being able to do whatever on weekends. But man watching tho...
It went everywhere. All over him, all over me, all over the changing table. I literally just stood there holding him at arms length not knowing what to do. My wife came in and found me standing frozen like an idiot. She was trying not to laugh but I could tell. Anyway new outfit and new sheet on the...
My wife suggested we do 10 minutes of Bible reading and prayer before breakfast. Honestly was skeptical at first but we've been doing it for 3 weeks now. My 7yo actually asks about the story the next morning. My 10yo has started praying for his friends at school. Feels like we're building something ...
Found my 2 year old with his entire face covered in peanut butter looking absolutely terrified. Turns out the dog licked it off. He screamed and laughed at the same time. I'm sitting there trying not to laugh at the chaos while simultaneously figuring out what the dog ingested. This is fatherhood. B...
HE SMILED. Not gas, not a reflex. An actual genuine smile when he saw my face this morning and I have never felt anything like it. I don't even care that I haven't slept in 36 hours or that I smell like spit up. This kid is the coolest thing that has ever happened to me. Just needed to tell someone ...
Got the email this morning that he made the travel baseball team he tried out for. He's been practicing every single day in the backyard since spring. This kid is determined, I'll give him that. Going to be a busy season but seeing him this happy makes it worth it. Already told him we're getting ice...
Took my son to get milk and he asked why the eggs were in a carton. I said because they'd break if they were in a bag. He goes 'that's not very eggs-traordinary dad' and walked away. That's my boy right there.