Phil M.

Commented on Anxiety about being a good enough dad is eating me alive

Man, I feel this so much. Having kids across two homes meant I had to let go of some control or I'd drive myself crazy. The sniffles thing is real - m...

Commented on Custody swap going downhill - need advice

30-45 minutes late every Friday would drive me crazy too. Have you thought about building in a buffer activity for the kids so the wait doesn't feel s...

Commented on Quit my corporate job and became a contractor

Respect for making the jump away from soul crushing work. That takes guts especially as a parent. The ups and downs are tough but at least now you're ...

Commented on Got custody of my kids after 3 years of fighting

That's huge, man. Three years of fighting through the courts takes real determination. Congrats on getting your kids back where they belong.

Commented on Quit my corporate job to work from home - best decision ever

That's huge. Twelve years is a long time to be grinding on the road. Your kids are gonna remember having their dad actually present way more than they...

Commented on Just finalized custody agreement - feeling guilty

60/40 is solid but the guilt afterwards is real. Just remember that you probably fought hard for that arrangement because it's what's best for your ki...

Commented on Taking paternity leave in 2 weeks, any advice?

The guilt about work is going to hit anyway, so just accept it now and move on. Your boss will survive six weeks. Your baby gets one shot at being a n...

Commented on The kids made me breakfast in bed and didn't burn anything

Wife setting it up doesn't matter. She made sure the kids could do something nice for you and they nailed it. No burnt pancakes is honestly a miracle ...

Commented on How to communicate with ex about important stuff

We switched to using an app specifically for co-parenting communication and it changed everything. Everything's in writing, there's no misunderstandin...

Commented on Custody exchange getting heated

McDonald's parking lot is actually smart. Keeps things neutral and civil. We tried the house handoff for a while and it always turned into a 20 minute...