Changed jobs about a year ago and took a pay cut to work local hours. My old company was demanding constant availability and I was always working. I'd come home, see my kids for like 30 minutes, then go to bed. My marriage was falling apart too because my wife basically raised the kids alone. Now I ...
Coming home from work yesterday and my 8yo just said 'dad you're a good dad' completely out of nowhere. Didn't need anything, wasn't asking for anything, just said it. Had to sit in my car for a minute before going in. Those kinds of moments make all the tough days worth it.
Before kids I had some anxiety but it was manageable. Now I'm constantly worried about everything. Did I buckle the carseat right? Is that rash something serious? What if I'm messing them up? I'm lying awake at 3am running through worst case scenarios. My wife is chill about everything and it makes ...
Not gonna lie the divorce sucked and was painful but looking back now I realize I was genuinely depressed in that marriage for a long time. Just going through motions, barely smiling, everything felt heavy. Now that I have my own place and time for myself I feel like I can actually breathe. Ive star...
Some days I feel like I'm just going through the motions. My kids are fed and alive but I'm not present. I yell at them over small stuff, I ignore them when they want to talk, and then I feel like garbage about it. My wife says I need to talk to someone but admitting I'm struggling feels like weakne...
My son is 3 weeks old and I think I've maybe slept 8 hours total in the last 48 hours. My wife and I are tag teaming the nights but honestly it's not working. He eats for like an hour, then we get maybe 20 minutes before he's crying again. Is this normal? Does anyone have actual tips that worked or ...
My brother's kids basically live on video games and streaming garbage and he doesn't set any boundaries. My wife thinks our kids shouldn't spend time there unsupervised but it's family. I don't want to be the judgmental Christian guy but I also don't want my kids absorbing all that stuff. How do you...
Not gonna lie, it took a family meeting, taking the PS5 away for a week, and setting up Apple Screen Time with actual consequences. He was playing 4-5 hours after school which was insane. Now we have a hard stop at 1 hour on school nights and he has to earn weekend time by doing chores. First week s...
Love my MIL but man she has an opinion on literally everything we do with our newborn. How we hold him, when we feed him, temperature of his bath, how we burp him. My wife gets stressed about it but I've been trying to take it as she just cares. Still sometimes I want to tell her we got this but I k...
Been interviewing for weeks and finally got the offer. Wanted to do something special so I took them to their favorite pizza place and told them there. My 6 year old said 'does this mean you can come to my soccer game?' and the fact that was her first thought means I made the right call taking this ...
My 10 year old caught me losing my temper at another driver yesterday and called me out on it. He said 'Dad you always say we should be kind but you were really mean.' Killed me because he's right. I preach patience and grace but my kids see the real me at home and it's not always pretty. How are yo...
Three years ago I was overweight, drinking too much to cope with anxiety, and single. Decided to change after a bad week. Hit the gym, got into therapy, quit drinking. Met my now wife at a running club. We got married and had a baby. When I look at old pictures I'm like that was actually me? I don't...
So my boss came to me today with this "incredible opportunity" to lead our new client rollout. Sounds great on paper but it's 3 weeks of travel over the next 2 months. My daughter just started kindergarten and my wife is drowning with her own work stuff. I really want this but I also don't want to m...
Planning to take the family on a 4 mile trail this Saturday and my youngest just turned 3. Looking for any advice from guys who've done this. Should I go with a backpack carrier or try to let him walk some of it? We've done shorter walks before but nothing this long. Also packing snacks and water bu...
I asked if I could adjust my hours to do 7am-3pm instead of 9-5 so I could be home when my kids get off the bus. My boss seemed cool with it at first but then promotions came around and I didn't get picked. My colleague said it was because leadership doesn't see me as committed anymore. Im furious. ...