Judge made both of us take an online co-parenting class before finalizing custody. I was annoyed about it (felt like a waste of time, not my first rodeo as a parent). But tbh there was some useful stuff in there about managing conflict in front of the kids and communication strategies. Not saying it...
My kids are at school all day and I work from home with computers. Been thinking about locking down what they can access when they get home just as a baseline filter. Don't need anything military-grade, just something that blocks obvious stuff and maybe time-limits on certain sites. Anything solid o...
We set up Google Family Link when he got his Chromebook last month. Kid's 11. Yesterday I noticed he'd somehow gotten around the app restrictions (not completely, but like... he got creative). We had to have a whole conversation about why we have them in place. I'm not mad at the resourcefulness tbh...
I've been in finance for 12 years. Good money, terrible hours. Two kids (6 and 3). Wife works part-time as a nurse. Been thinking about pivoting to something that lets me actually be present - teaching, tech support, something less demanding. But leaving means: starting over, lower pay, benefits que...
Quick recommendation: if your workplace uses Slack, set up "Focus time" blocks where you're unavailable. I block 9-11am and 2-4pm so I can actually do deep work without 50 Slack messages. Then I'm "on" during other hours. My team respects it way more than I expected. Productivity is up like 40% whic...
Spent all of last weekend building that Kallax Lego table from Pinterest that everyone keeps posting. My 7yo watched me do like 80% of it (okay fine, he 'helped' by handing me pieces but mostly got in the way) and now he's been building track layouts for 4 days straight. Haven't heard "I'm bored" on...
Seriously, I deep cleaned my Weber last month and the thing looks like it sat in the ocean. Live in the midwest so the humidity is killer. Tried that rust converter stuff but it keeps coming back. Am I doing something wrong or is this just part of owning a grill?
She's got TikTok and spends like 45 min a day on it max (that I can see). She's not posting anything crazy, mostly watching dance videos and comedy. But she's also discovered these beauty/fashion influencers and now thinks she needs to look a certain way. I can see the stuff affecting her self-image...
We got maybe 2 inches last month in Portland and it melted within hours. My kids have this fantasy of sledding but it's not really happening here. What do you all do for winter weekend activities if you're not in a snowy climate? We've done the usual (indoor play places, pools, etc) but looking for ...
Got an entire shower by myself today. No interruptions. No one asking where I am. Just stood there like a normal human being. My wife watched the kids and I got 20 minutes of peace and it felt like a luxury vacation. This is my life now and I'm choosing to be happy about it instead of sad about what...
Got the paperwork for paternity leave (2 weeks) but my boss keeps hinting that "things are busy" and that maybe I could "ease back in" instead of fully disconnecting. I have the PTO, it's technically my right, but I'm scared it'll hurt my chances at the promotion that's coming up in Q3. How many of ...
So my ex wants Christmas Eve this year because she "always" had it, but we never actually put that in the custody agreement. Our kids are 8 and 5, and I've been doing Christmas Eve with them since the split 2 years ago. She's now saying it's "emotionally important" to her tradition and threatening t...
My son's into it now. I haven't skateboarded since college and I'm rusty af. Don't want to be that dad who can't help him learn. Should I invest in a decent board for him or get something cheap to start? Any YouTube channels or teaching approaches that actually work? Also how much does it hurt when ...
Heard from his teacher that some kid was being disrespectful and my son calmly told him to stop and walked away. Teacher said the bully actually seemed surprised. I always tell my kids strength isn't about being the toughest it's about having the confidence to not need to prove anything. Proud doesn...
Not even the exhaustion or the money stuff, it's the guilt. I work in tech, decent job, decent pay, but I'm constantly feeling like I'm NOT ENOUGH. Not enough at work (leaving at 5pm to pick up kids), not enough at home (checking email during dinner), not enough as a husband (my wife does more), not...