Married for 12 years and we just couldn't make it work. It's been two years since the split and I'm in a weird place. Some days I'm excited about new possibilities, other days I miss the routine and having someone there. I'm figuring out what I actually like doing when I'm not trying to compromise w...
Had my boy's little league coach compliment me yesterday on how my 10 year old gave him a firm handshake and looked him in the eye. Made me proud as hell. Been working with him since he was about 7, teaching him that a handshake says something about who you are. It's not just about grip strength eit...
Woke up to burnt toast, scrambled eggs that somehow got both too runny and too crispy at the same time, and apple juice in my coffee mug because apparently we were out of mugs. It was absolute garbage and I ate every bite while he stood there watching me with the biggest smile. Best meal I've ever h...
Been thinking a lot about this as my oldest gets older. Seems like everything now is negotiable and people just say whatever gets them out of trouble. I'm trying to teach my boys that your word is everything. You make a commitment you see it through, even when it's hard or inconvenient. Even to your...
Seriously it's like a black hole. They watch for 10 minutes and suddenly 2 hours has gone by. I've tried limiting it but then we get the whining and bargaining. Tried the reward system, tried taking it away entirely which caused absolute chaos. I don't want to be the bad guy but I also don't want th...
Spent the last 3 weekends building a new workbench in the garage and its finally done. Its not perfect but man does it feel good to have a proper setup. Now I can actually organize my tools instead of having them scattered everywhere. Already planning my next project which will probably be a storage...
Waiter asked how our meal was and I said 'So good I forgot to pretend to enjoy my kids company.' My wife kicked me under the table but the waiter laughed. That guy gets it.
Finally tackled that floating shelf project in my home gym. Used steel brackets and they look solid. Actually holds my weight when I lean on them so I'm calling that a win. Next up is a pull up bar in the garage. This DIY stuff is addictive.
My wife made more money so it made sense for me to stay home with the kids. Honestly it was the best decision we made. But now they're both in school and I'm feeling lost. Started looking for work and just got an offer. Nervous as hell about the transition but also excited to use my brain for someth...
I'll be fine all day and then 11pm hits and my brain just goes. Start thinking about money, my job security, if I'm a good enough dad, health stuff that's probably nothing. My heart races and I can't shut it off. Wife tells me to just go to sleep but it doesn't work like that. Started some CBT thera...
Marriage ended 2 years ago. Spent the first year just broken and angry. Now I'm actually dating and getting to know who I am as a person outside of being someone's husband. Turns out I like hiking and cooking, I never did either before. I'm calmer, less cynical. My kids have adjusted better than I t...
Baby is 4 months old and I've been struggling hard. Everything feels heavy. I love my son but I don't feel happy about any of it. Sex life is gone, my wife is exhausted all the time, I'm exhausted, money is tight because she's not working. I feel like I'm failing at everything. Mentioned it to my do...
Caught my 7 year old pouring milk before the cereal this morning. I said son that's not how we do things in this house. He looked me dead in the eye and said 'Dad you're the real cereal killer when you tell those jokes at breakfast.' Roasted by my own kid.
Been working on this for almost a year. Insulated walls, new lighting, proper workbench setup, and even got a small fridge out there. It's basically my sanctuary now. Spent all day Saturday organizing tools and just sitting out there with a coffee. Wife thinks I'm crazy but this is the first time in...
Hit rock bottom when my kids were 4 and 6. I was missing soccer games, forgetting important stuff, barely present even when I was physically there. Wife gave me an ultimatum. Got into a program, did the work, and now I'm almost 5 years sober. The thing that gets me is how much my identity was wrappe...