My 11yo got into Minecraft and honestly I play with him sometimes. It's like the only time he actually talks to me about stuff without me having to pull teeth. We'll build things together for an hour and he just opens up. Wife thinks I should be doing other things but this feels like our thing, you ...
Pre-kids me would just say 'let's go to Vegas this weekend' and we'd leave on Friday. Now planning anything requires military logistics with nap schedules and babysitter availability. Do I miss that freedom? Yeah sometimes. But there's something I never expected about having a routine with my kids. ...
Been working from home for 2 years now and I'm having an identity crisis. I used to be the guy with the commute, the work clothes, the separate identity from dad. Now I'm in the same house all day answering emails between making lunches and breaking up fights. I miss having that split between work l...
I love my kids and I'm grateful but there's this weird loneliness that comes with fatherhood. All my friends without kids are still out doing stuff and I'm home with a 2 year old and a newborn. My wife is overwhelmed, I'm overwhelmed, and we barely talk except about logistics. I miss having actual c...
My wife is breastfeeding our 6 week old but we want me to do some feedings with a bottle so she can get breaks. We got the bottles but when I try it, the baby screams and my wife gets stressed. Anyone have tips on making this transition smoother? I want to help and I want to bond with my baby but I'...
Been working on this thing for like 6 months between kids' practices and work stuff. Got it all sanded, stained, and mounted yesterday. Now I just need to find 5 minutes to actually use it before someone asks me to drive them somewhere. But man it looks good.
Signed up to take my two oldest (14 and 16) to help build homes in Guatemala for a week. Been praying about this for a while and felt God telling me they need to see that faith means action. They're at ages where the world is telling them success is money and status. Want them to see that serving ot...
The financial stuff has been weighing on me hard lately. Got a big car repair bill I wasn't expecting and now I'm lying awake at night running numbers in my head. I know logically we'll be fine but my brain won't shut off. I'm tired and irritable with the family which just makes me feel worse. Been ...
I work full time and by the time I get home I'm exhausted. I help with dinner and bedtime but I know my kids need more from me. Other dads seem like they have it together way better. My wife says I'm doing fine but I can't shake the feeling that I'm missing out and letting them down. My oldest barel...
Moving to the area next month and the one thing I'm worried about is finding decent pizza. We had this amazing spot near our old house and I haven't been able to replicate it. Does anyone have a go-to pizza place that's actually worth the drive? Willing to go pretty far for quality. Also open to new...
Long story short, my job situation changed and I can't stick to my current 40/60 split anymore because of my new schedule. I know I need to go back to court to modify the arrangement but I'm already paying child support and a lawyer would just drain me right now. Has anyone dealt with legal aid or d...
My son is 8 days old and I love him but honestly I don't feel that overwhelming connection yet. My wife seems instantly obsessed and I'm over here feeling like I'm just keeping him alive and that's enough for now. Is something wrong with me? My dad friends say they felt the same way but it hits diff...
My 15 year old has been asking tough questions and basically told me he doesn't believe in God anymore. Says it doesn't make sense and a lot of Christians he knows are hypocrites. I freaked out a bit but my wife reminded me that his faith has to be his own, not just inherited from us. We're trying t...
We used to do daily family devotions when the kids were younger but life got crazy and we let it slide. Started them back up last month and it's changed everything. Kids are more open, my marriage feels stronger, and I'm actually spending intentional time pointing them toward Jesus instead of just a...
Haven't played in like 10 years but picked up some clubs at a garage sale for cheap. Been hitting the range after work a couple times a week. My golf brain is coming back and I'm actually not terrible. Might join the club again soon.