Discovered my son was in some random gaming Discord with people I don't know. He said nothing bad was happening just gaming talk but I'm freaked out. Had the whole stranger danger talk with him again. Is Discord safe for kids this age? Should I be monitoring him more or am I being helicopter parent?...
Before kids me was always down for last minute plans, weekend trips, staying out late. Now I'm the guy who bails on stuff or leaves early because my kid has soccer at 9am. My single friends think I disappeared and honestly they're not totally wrong. Being a parent completely rewrote who I am and I'm...
Wife is dealing with postpartum stuff, kids need me to be steady, work is insane, and I'm just supposed to absorb all of it without complaint because that's what dads do right? Except I'm not doing great. I'm anxious all the time about money, whether I'm screwing up my kids, if I'm enough for my wif...
They gave the promotion to Derek from the other team. I've been grinding for two years thinking this was my shot and my kids kept asking when I'd be the boss now. Had to tell them I didn't get it. Sounds stupid but I felt like I let them down. Wife reminded me that I provide for them and they're pro...
Split up about 18 months ago and things were actually going okay for a while. Lately every text with the ex turns into an argument even about stupid stuff. Yesterday I asked about the kids' soccer schedule and somehow it became about money I supposedly owe. Just want to focus on the kids but it feel...
Work is fine, family is fine, but I feel this weird loneliness that doesn't make sense. I have friends but I don't feel close to anyone. Can't really talk about how I'm actually feeling with most guys because the conversation always stays surface level. Sports, work complaints, whatever. No one ever...
My company just announced we're going back to 3 days in office starting next month. I've been fully remote for 2 years and my kids have gotten used to me being home. My 6 year old cried when I told him. I know I need to suck it up but man, the commute, the gas money, the logistics of daycare pickup....
I've been dating someone for about 6 months now and my daughter asked if she could meet her last weekend. My ex found out and got upset that I didn't clear it with her first. I don't think I need permission to have someone around on my parenting time. But also don't want to rock the boat too much si...
Me and my ex wife need to communicate better about the kids. We keep having the same arguments about pickups and what the kids ate or did at school. Someone told me there are apps specifically for divorced parents to share info about the kids. Anyone use those? Which one is actually worth paying for...
Got a 12 pounder from the butcher and I'm going to smoke it on the offset smoker my dad gave me. Never done a brisket before so I'm both excited and terrified. Planning to start early morning, keep it at 225 degrees, and just let it ride. How long should I expect? I'm thinking 10-12 hours but I've r...
Kids want to go trick or treating but we're exhausted and it's supposed to be cold. Thinking about just doing the one street by our house instead of the whole neighborhood. Is that lazy parenting or is that being smart about your energy? Probably gonna do a low key Halloween movie night after and ca...
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Just finished Season 3 of The Boys and man, that show does not disappoint. Looking for something new to binge with the wife. She's not into heavy action stuff though so open to suggestions. What's everyone else got going on?
Trying to raise our four kids with strong Christian values but man, the culture is pushing against us at every turn. School, friends, social media, everything. We do family devotions and church but I wonder if it's enough. How are you guys navigating this? Feeling the weight of responsibility to poi...
Just picked up a Genesis II and I'm absolutely loving it. Made ribs last night that were incredible. My neighbors are probably sick of me talking about it already lol. Worth every penny though, no regrets.