Don't get me wrong, I love my family but I feel like I've lost my friendships. All my buddies are either childless and doing their thing or we just text occasionally about nothing. I spend most evenings with my wife and kids, which is great, but I miss having actual guy friends to talk to about real...
I feel like I'm constantly worried I'm messing my kids up somehow. Like I'll snap at them over something dumb and then spend the next hour replaying it in my head thinking I've damaged them. My therapist says I'm being too hard on myself but man it's exhausting. Does anyone else deal with this or is...
This is driving me insane. We have a clear schedule in the custody agreement but she keeps texting me an hour before pickup saying she needs to swap days or push times back. I don't mind being flexible but this has happened 8 times in the past month. When I say no, she gets mad and says I'm being di...
3 years sober as of today. Not going to lie, the first 6 months were the hardest thing I've ever done. Lost friends who were drinking buddies, had to actually deal with my feelings instead of numbing them, and my ex was understandably skeptical about giving me more custody time. But now my kids see ...
Spent years being the guy who said yes to everything, stayed out late, bought whatever the kids wanted to win their affection after the split. Then I realized they needed boundaries more than they needed a buddy. Started actually parenting instead of competing with my ex for favorite parent status. ...
Haven't slept more than 2 hours straight in 3 weeks. Baby is feeding every 2-3 hours around the clock and my wife and I are just trading off but never getting actual rest. I've started forgetting things at work and got angry at my mom for no reason yesterday. When does this get better? I love my dau...
I was sedentary, overweight, basically gave up on myself. Started running three years ago just to feel better. Now I do half marathons and lift. Lost 60 pounds. But the weird part is how much it changed my confidence, my marriage, the way my kids see me. I'm not sitting on the couch anymore. I'm cli...
So I was going off on my kids about lying and honesty and all that. Then my daughter asked why I told my boss I was sick when I went golfing last month. She didn't say it mean, just genuine question. Absolutely gutted me. I apologized to all three of them that night and we talked about how hard it i...
Had my third session yesterday and I gotta say it's helping already. My therapist helped me realize a lot of my depression stems from feeling like a failure as a dad because I missed so much time with my kids due to work stress. We're working on separating my self worth from my productivity which is...
Trying to instill Christian values in my daughters when everything around them is pushing the opposite direction. School, social media, their friends parents are all living completely different lifestyles. I don't want to be the overbearing religious dad but I also want them to understand what I bel...
Happened to me at work today during a meeting. My heart just started racing and I couldn't focus on anything anyone was saying. I've been dealing with anxiety for a few years but these attacks are getting worse. Haven't talked to a therapist yet because honestly I'm embarrassed about it. Does anyone...
Got a message from my ex saying our son told her he's scared of my girlfriend Sarah. I was blindsided by this. Sarah has been around maybe 6 times over the last two months, nothing crazy, she brings the kids snacks and they seemed fine with her. I asked my son about it and he wouldn't really explain...
This is the third time this month she's been late picking up the kids on my work days. Last Tuesday I was 45 minutes late to a client meeting because she didn't show up till 5:15 when it was supposed to be 4:30. I texted her asking what happened and she just said 'traffic.' No apology, no heads up b...
Seriously. Used to just close a door for 5 minutes and have peace. Now there's always someone asking where I am or knocking asking if I'm coming out soon. Or just standing there waiting. I don't know when I became the guy who gets excited about taking a long shower but here we are.
Looking for recommendations. We've been hitting the chain places too much and the kids want something different. Would be great for Friday nights. Bonus if it's not too loud since we can actually hear ourselves think lol.