Currently 18 months post-split, starting to date someone seriously. My kids are 6 and 8. I know the advice is 'wait at least 2 years' but tbh I'm not sure that's realistic for me. My ex is already introducing guys to the kids pretty casually. What's your actual experience? How did your kids react? D...
First time that's happened to me. Woke up with chest tightness, couldn't catch my breath, thought something was physically wrong. Wife convinced me to go to urgent care—they said it was anxiety. Felt stupid sitting there waiting for a doctor to tell me nothing was actually wrong with me. Stayed home...
Quick question - we split up informally and just do week on/week off without anything on paper. It's worked fine for 2 years but people keep telling me I need to get it legalized. Is that overkill if we're actually getting along okay? Seems expensive.
Been eyeballing the Fyra model for the backyard. Pizza nights with the family sound perfect but they're spendy and I'm wondering if I'd actually use it enough to justify the cost. How long do you dads actually use seasonal stuff before it becomes a yard decoration? Be honest lol
It's literally a beautiful day and she wants to watch some weird 45-minute Roblox speedrun video. I know she's only 6 and this is fairly normal but it drives me crazy. We have a park literally 5 minutes away. She has toys. I'm not trying to be the "screen bad, outside good" dad but also... yes I am ...
I'm losing my mind. We put him to bed at 8:30, he gets up at 5am like clockwork, and then he's cranky by 3pm. Tried moving bedtime earlier - nope, still 5am. Tried a wake-up clock thing - he ignores it. Meanwhile my 3-year-old sleeps till 7:30 like a normal human. Is this a phase? Should I talk to t...
Got my first appointment done with a therapist my doctor recommended. Spent the whole time talking about how work has been killing me since the twins were born 18 months ago. The therapist kept asking me about my childhood and I just... didn't want to go there. Now I have to go back in 2 weeks and I...
I stopped taking my melatonin + occasional ambien about a year ago because I wanted to "beat" my insomnia naturally. lol. That did not work. I'm back to sleeping like 5 hours a night, which tanks my mood and makes everything worse. Started back on the meds yesterday and slept 8 solid hours. Feeling ...
Been teaching my oldest how to work on cars in the garage and I gotta say, it's been one of the best decisions I've made as a dad. He's learning problem solving, getting confident, understanding how things actually work instead of just pushing buttons on screens. Plus we're building something togeth...
Was reading news and social media until like 11pm every night, which was keeping my anxiety elevated and destroying my sleep. Started this week - putting phone in another room after 9. It's only been 4 days but I'm sleeping better and I'm not waking up already stressed. Probably sounds obvious but ...
Called around to see about joining a local club and apparently they want 5 grand a year PLUS an initiation fee that's basically another year of membership. I get it it's nice to have reserved tee times but come on. Been hitting the public courses for the last 20 years and honestly the greens are pre...
My 4yo has had like 3 accidents this week on transition days (Mon mornings when I pick him up from mom's place). Otherwise he's dry. Is this just stress from switching houses or should I be concerned? First time parent stuff and honestly it's got me worried.
I'm a software engineer, was in a meeting with like 20 people. Out of nowhere my chest got tight, hands started shaking, couldn't focus on what anyone was saying. Had to excuse myself to the bathroom. Sat in a stall for 15 minutes trying to breathe. Called my wife in the car after and just cried. Ne...
Love my wife but we parent different. She's more lenient, I'm stricter. Kids are playing us against each other now and we both know it. How do yall and your spouses find common ground on this stuff without one of yall feeling like you compromised your values?
I made spaghetti for dinner. My older kid wants it with no sauce. Younger one wants only sauce no noodles. My wife wants hers with a ton of garlic. So now I'm standing here making four different pasta dishes and wondering when exactly I agreed to this life.