Every other weekend she changes plans last minute. Says I need to be flexible but it feels deliberate. Last month I had to cancel on my family because she decided to switch days three times. My lawyer says to document everything but it's exhausting. Anyone dealing with a parent who weaponizes the sc...

So I've been working from home for 2 years now and honestly it's gotten worse not better. My kids think my office door being closed means nothing so I'm constantly interrupted. But then I feel guilty about telling them to leave me alone so I end up working till 9pm just to catch up. My wife is frust...

After months of battling with my kids about screen time I finally got it right. Using a combo of Apple Screen Time, WiFi router controls, and having open conversations about WHY we have limits instead of just enforcing them. My oldest actually responded way better when he understood the reasoning. S...

My second kiddo is due in 2 months and I'm trying to figure out what to request from my company. I took 2 weeks with my first and honestly it wasn't enough time. I'm thinking about pushing for 4 weeks this time but I'm worried about looking uncommitted at work. What did you guys do? How much time di...

Its getting harder to shield my kids from all the stuff out there without being too overprotective. Want them to grow up with biblical values but also not feel like theyre missing out on everything. How do you guys balance it? What conversations have worked for you in explaining why we do things dif...

This is my third year being told I'm 'not quite ready' for the next level. I'm actually a better engineer than some guys in those roles but apparently I don't have the right 'presence' or whatever. Came home yesterday in a mood and pretty much ignored my family all evening. My 6 year old asked why d...

I try to explain that football season is basically sacred and she just rolls her eyes. Like yeah maybe I care too much about my teams but it's my one thing you know? Told her I don't complain about her spending three hours at Target. She said that's not the same thing. Are the husbands out there all...

Used to be the guy everyone knew would be drunk at the party, unreliable, broke promises to my kids constantly. Got sober five years ago after hitting rock bottom. Now I'm fully present, I'm the dad I always wanted to be for them, I have actual friendships based on real connection. My family doesn't...

My manager keeps piling on projects and I'm already working until 8 or 9pm most nights. I have a family that needs me home. I know if I push back too hard I'm going to get passed over for promotions but I'm burning out. Anyone figured out how to set boundaries without looking like you don't care abo...

I was commuting 45 minutes each way for 6 years. Since going remote two years ago I've picked the kids up from school every day, have lunch with the family, and actually see my wife during the day. My career hasn't suffered and honestly I'm more productive. The tradeoff is zero separation between wo...

We brought our son home yesterday and every time I close my eyes I jolt awake thinking something's wrong. My wife says this is normal but I feel like I'm losing it. How do you guys deal with the anxiety? Do I ever actually sleep again or is this just my life now?

So my 3 week old decided to go full volcanic at 3am and it was EVERYWHERE. Up the back, down the legs, on my shirt. I stood there for like a full minute just staring at the destruction before my brain kicked in. Changed the kid, changed myself, changed the sheets, threw up a little in my mouth. Anyo...

Been thinking about this a lot lately. My boy is 7 and he's growing up in a time where being honest, standing your ground, and having real conviction isn't always rewarded. In school they want him to be agreeable, go along with things, not cause problems. But I want him to know when to say no, when ...

Been struggling with this for months. Started using Apple Screen Time to set limits but he'd just cry when it locked him out. Then I tried something different - gave him a 30 min warning before cutoff time and let HIM set a timer on my phone. Something about him controlling when it ended made all th...

Left my phone on the couch for 5 minutes and somehow my oldest figured out how to download a free game and buy gems or whatever. Got hit with $39.99 in charges that I didn't approve. Called Apple and they were actually pretty helpful, got a refund but they said this is super common. Now I'm paranoid...