We're doing formula and I keep overthinking the amounts and timing. The pediatrician said follow the hunger cues but my baby seems hungry constantly and I'm paranoid I'm either not feeding him enough or overfeeding him. He's gaining weight fine at checkups but I still worry. Do you guys just feed wh...
Been trying to teach my three kids about tithing and generosity but it feels hypocritical when we're living paycheck to paycheck. We still give what we can but I wonder if they're getting the real message or if they're just seeing dad stress about money constantly. Anyone else wrestling with this? H...
I was that guy grinding 60 hour weeks, thinking I'd make partner by 40. Defined myself by my job title. Then my oldest was born and something just clicked. I realized I was so focused on the future payoff that I was missing actual moments. My kid wouldn't remember the extra money from those hours. S...
This is weird but I feel incredibly lonely. I'm surrounded by kids all day, my wife is around, I have coworkers. But I don't really have anyone I talk to about the real stuff. Most of my friends either don't have kids or we just talk about surface level stuff. There's something isolating about being...
I looked in the mirror today and realized I'm wearing khaki shorts, a polo shirt, New Balance sneakers, and white socks pulled up. I look exactly like my own dad did. The transformation is complete. When did this happen? I'm only 38. Send help and also some cargo shorts because apparently I need mor...
Started seeing a therapist 2 months ago to work through some stuff and it's genuinely making a difference. But man it costs a lot even with insurance. My company's FSA helps a little but I'm looking at like 200 bucks a month out of pocket. Worth it for my mental health obviously but with two kids an...
Started a new tradition last month where everyone puts their phones away Sunday evening and we have a real dinner together. No screens, no distractions. Just talking and eating. My oldest rolled his eyes the first time but now he actually asks what we're doing Sunday. Feels like something important ...
This is the third time this month. She's supposed to pick up the kids at 5pm on Friday and doesn't show until 630 or 7. I have plans, they get confused, and it's messing with our schedule. I don't want to be that guy but I'm getting frustrated. Do I need to document this? Should I talk to my lawyer ...
After months of planning and saving I finally finished my setup. New monitor, decent chair, good lighting. Wife thinks I'm crazy but honestly it's nice to have something that's just mine, you know? I get maybe an hour or two a few nights a week when kids are in bed. Been playing through Baldur's Gat...
She made these little coupons for stuff like breakfast in bed, one free back massage, movie night pick, etc. She gave it to me this morning and it's literally the sweetest thing. I told her I was redeeming the massage one immediately lol. Doesn't matter what I get for Father's Day after this, this i...
My daughter said she didn't want to go to school today. I said 'Well, I didn't want to get out of bed this morning but here we are.' My wife was NOT amused. She said I'm teaching her bad habits. I said that's literally the job description.
Been planning this for like 2 years and finally pulled the trigger. Got a solid 8 foot workbench from Home Depot, mounted a peg board, got all my tools organized. Biggest challenge was convincing my wife it wasn't just an excuse to spend money in the garage. But now I actually have a real space to t...
Been working with him for the past month and I finally took off those training wheels. I was running behind him in the backyard thinking he was gonna eat dirt but he just... did it. Pedaled about 30 feet before he got wobbly but the smile on his face man. He was so proud. I was so proud. Definitely ...
I told him I was just checking if there were any dad jokes in there. He said 'Dad, that's not how this works.' I said 'I know son, but I'm still going to read them anyway.' His eye roll was legendary.
I know I'm a good dad but I can't shake this feeling like I'm not doing enough. Missing my oldest's soccer game last week because of work is still eating at me even though there's like 10 more games this season. My therapist says it's perfectionism but knowing that doesn't really help. How do you gu...