Been seeing a therapist for 5 weeks now and I'm noticing real changes. I'm not snapping at my kids over small stuff as much. Dr. Morrison (great therapist in Portland if anyone's in the area) helped me realize a lot of my anger issues are rooted in feeling like I'm failing as a provider. We're worki...
I'm terrible at follow through. I'll set a consequence and then not actually enforce it because I feel bad or I'm tired. My 9yo has figured this out and now does whatever because he knows I'll cave. My wife is actually the consistent one which makes me look bad. How do you guys stay firm when your k...
Our custody agreement says we "alternate major holidays" but doesn't specify what counts as major. Christmas was mine, she wants Thanksgiving. Fair enough. But then she's also claiming New Year's Eve/Day as separate holidays that should be hers too?? And wanting to do Christmas morning with the kids...
Took the plunge last weekend. He's got a decent group of friends at school, started soccer travel team, and tbh he was the ONLY kid in his grade without one. Set it up with: - Screen Time limits (2 hours/day, no apps after 9pm) - iCloud Family Sharing so I can see his location - Restricted to iMess...
Been using the Headspace dad meditation pack for like 3 weeks now. Not gonna say it's a miracle worker but the 5-min morning sessions legit help me not be a rage monster before breakfast. Some are cheesy but the ones about "being present vs being perfect" hit different when you're a parent. Worth th...
ngl this is a weird take but changing my son's diapers (he's 3 months) is like the one thing I can do that's purely competence-based right now. I'm not leaking milk, I'm not a walking pacifier, I'm just... doing a task and doing it well? My wife thought I was insane when I told her this lol but like...
Had a weird moment last night where I suggested we try a different diaper brand because the current ones give my son (2 months) a rash but my wife took it as criticism of her choices? That wasn't the intent at all - I was just problem-solving because he's uncomfortable. Now I'm wondering if I'm ov...
This might sound weird but I feel this constant pressure that MY job is the "primary" one even though my wife makes nearly as much as I do. We're both working full-time, but somehow it's my career path everyone asks about, my job that seems more important when schedules conflict, and I feel like I n...
Got about 80% of the composite deck done this weekend while the kids played in the backyard. Only had to run inside twice to make sure nothing was on fire. The grill stayed on low heat the whole time and honestly it worked out perfectly—grilled some burgers for lunch while I was working. My back is ...
My oldest was really into basketball and video games but lately he just seems... done? With everything? Comes home from school, goes to his room. I don't want to push too hard but I'm worried. Is this normal teen stuff or should I be concerned? How do I approach this without making him shut down mor...
I get it now. Like actually GET it. My dad always seemed tired but never complained. Now I'm tired and complaining constantly and my kid is only one. That man had four of us. I legit owe my parents an apology and a therapy fund. Parents are insane.
Been working on this for like 6 months. Every morning it was a battle. Today he just... did it. Bunny ears, loops, the whole thing. I'm sitting here drinking cold coffee trying not to cry lol. Small thing but man it feels huge.
**UPDATE:** Switched to the Burt's Bees organic cotton wraps and our 3-month-old finally sleeps for more than 45 minutes. We tried: - Love to Dream (waste of money) - Swaddleme velcro (he busted out in 10 mins) - Regular blankets (lol) - Zipadee Zip (okay but expensive) - These Burt's ones (finally ...
Been on it for 3 weeks. First two weeks felt weird and nauseous but my doctor said stick with it. This past week I've slept through the night 4 times—FOUR TIMES—without waking up at 3am spiraling about random things. My anxiety is still there but it's like the volume turned down? Don't know if that'...
My 6-year-old was ready to ditch the training wheels so we went to the park yesterday. I was running alongside the bike like some kind of Olympic sprinter, sweating through my shirt, absolutely convinced she was about to eat pavement. She made it maybe 30 feet before wobbling into the grass but hone...