How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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So two years ago I was just sitting around drinking beer every night, working a desk job, and feeling like garbage. My kids would ask me to play and I'd be too tired. One day my 6
Split from my wife last June. Moved into a tiny apartment and had to figure out who I was as a single dad with the kids every other weekend. Turns out I'm actually pretty decent at
Went back to school while working full time and raising two teenagers. Took 5 years but got my degree in software engineering. Now I'm making almost double what I was as a carpente
Not trying to be preachy but man. Was drinking heavy for like 8 years. My kids literally preferred their mom. Now my oldest actually wants me at his soccer games instead of avoidin
Hit 15 years in finance and just walked away. People think I'm crazy but honestly best decision ever. Used to be gone 6am-8pm, missed my kids growing up. Now I'm doing school runs,
Been doing this for 8 months now. Took a pay cut but I'm present for my kids which was the whole point. I'm at their soccer practices, I make dinner most nights, I see my youngest
I was a mess. Drinking every night, missed kids soccer games, terrible at my job. My wife gave me an ultimatum and I actually listened. Been sober 5 years now. Got promoted twice,
Started working out about 18 months ago just because my back was killing me all the time. Lost the first 50 pounds without even trying that hard, then got serious about it. Now I a
My father was checked out the whole time I was growing up. Barely knew him. Swore I'd be different and I actually followed through. It's hard sometimes because I don't have a model
Took the plunge after 15 years working 9-5 in the same office. Wanted flexibility for the kids. Some days I make way more money, some days I make nothing. The anxiety of not knowin
Started at 315 pounds. Kids made fun of me at their school. That hit different. Did keto, hit the gym 4 days a week, completely changed my eating habits. Took two years but I'm 230
So I quit my job as a marketing director last year and became a stay at home dad. Best and hardest decision I've ever made. Miss the paychecks and adult conversations, not gonna li
Five years sober this month. I was a beer every night guy, then it became 6-7 beers. My kids were scared of me. My wife threatened to leave. I went to my first AA meeting absolutel
Seriously. Got promoted two years ago and finally got my financial act together. Before that I was living paycheck to paycheck, no emergency fund, credit card debt everywhere. Star
Took me three years but I finally did it. Started at 280, now sitting at 200 and I actually feel good about how I look. The weird part is people who haven't seen me in a while lite
Man, I don't even recognize myself sometimes. Five years ago I was that guy at the bar every Friday and Saturday, playing in a competitive softball league, hitting up concerts when
Everyone thought I was insane. Six figures in tech, good benefits, and I just walked away to swing a hammer. Been doing it for three years now and honestly best decision I ever mad
Five years ago I was drinking way too much, sleeping 4 hours a night, thought I was hot stuff. Then my daughter was born and I realized I was going to model this disaster for her.
Before kids I was spontaneous, had money, could sleep till noon on weekends, went out whenever I wanted. Now I'm a planner and a worrier. My identity went from being a person to be
I was selfish before my kids. Like genuinely only thought about myself and what I wanted. Becoming a dad forced me to grow up mentally and emotionally. I learned patience because y