Work life balance is still killing me
Everyone talks about how being a dad changes you but nobody mentions that you end up working your butt off trying to be good at both. I went from being a guy who could focus comple
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Everyone talks about how being a dad changes you but nobody mentions that you end up working your butt off trying to be good at both. I went from being a guy who could focus comple
5 years ago I was sitting on the couch every night drinking beer and playing video games. Then my daughter was born and something just clicked. I didn't want to be the dad who got
I used to live for my band. We'd play shows every Friday and Saturday, sleep till noon on Sundays, just complete freedom. Got married, had two kids by 28, and now my life is schedu
Used to pack a bag on Friday and just road trip wherever. No plans, no reservations, just drive. Now I've got a mortgage, two kids in school, and I plan my life 3 months in advance
My buddies would say I was a pretty self absorbed dude before kids. Everything was about what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go, what made me happy. Had my first son at 32 and i
Worked nights for 7 years and finally landed a day job. People keep asking me what's different and honestly everything is different. I actually see my kids at dinner now instead of
People always want to know how I did it or what changed my mind. Honestly my kid asked me why daddy was always tired and that broke something in me. I was a functional drunk, nothi
Started running two years ago just to feel less exhausted. Now I do marathons. Before I couldn't play tag with my kids without getting winded. Now they can barely keep up with me.
Son is 3 now and I genuinely don't know when I became this person. Used to play in a band, go to shows, sleep till noon on weekends, make spontaneous plans. Now my personality is j
Quit my job 8 months ago to watch the kids while wife works. Everyone said I'd hate it but honestly I'm in a completely different headspace now. Used to define myself by my job tit
Haven't had a drink in 730 days. For real. Used to be the guy everyone wanted to party with, and now half my old friends don't call anymore. That identity is just gone. What I gain
Had that bike for 8 years. Felt like freedom on two wheels. Got married, had kids, and one day realized I hadn't ridden it in 6 months because I was scared of leaving my wife as a
Spent 12 years grinding it out, making serious money, working 60+ hour weeks. Was the guy with the expensive car and the corner office. My oldest asked me one night why I wasn't at
Used to stay up until 2-3am playing competitive FPS games, sleeping until noon on weekends. Now I'm up at 5am with my 2 year old whether I like it or not. Miss the freedom honestly
Won't get into all the details but I was a mess. Drinking every night, missing days with my son, lying to everyone. Hit rock bottom hard. Been sober since my son was 3, he's 7 now.
Before kids I was depressed, overweight, and basically gave up on myself. Now I'm down 60 pounds and actually active. Last month I ran a 5K and my daughter was at the finish line s
Got burned out hard at 38 and stepped back from my company. Took a less stressful job that pays half what I made but gives me evenings and weekends. My boys barely knew me before.
Just hit 5 years sober and became a dad two years ago. I'm looking at pictures from my twenties and I don't even recognize that guy. Back then I was the dude who'd disappear on wee
5 months sober here and I'm having an identity crisis. I was the fun dad who could party with anyone, now I'm the guy who orders sparkling water. Sounds dumb but I genuinely don't
Man I can't believe it's been a year since I decided to get my life together. Used to come home from work and just collapse on the couch with beer and my phone for hours. My kids w