Got Sober 18 Months Ago
Not gonna get into details but I was a mess. My kids barely knew me. Now I'm coaching soccer, actually remembering conversations, and my 7 year old doesn't flinch when I come home.
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Not gonna get into details but I was a mess. My kids barely knew me. Now I'm coaching soccer, actually remembering conversations, and my 7 year old doesn't flinch when I come home.
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