Divorce Changed Everything
Three years ago I thought my life was over. Married 12 years, two kids, and the marriage just wasn't working anymore. We split custody 50/50. Had to move to a smaller place, had to
WWyatt C.215 views
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Three years ago I thought my life was over. Married 12 years, two kids, and the marriage just wasn't working anymore. We split custody 50/50. Had to move to a smaller place, had to
Started this journey 18 months ago at 285 lbs just trying to keep up with my kids without getting winded. Did a bunch of running, got into meal prep, the whole thing. Now I'm under
Sold our house in the suburbs last year and bought 10 acres about an hour out of the city. Built a chicken coop, planted a massive garden, kids go to a smaller school now. It's exh
Man I still can't believe this is my life now. Quit my job in finance 2 years ago when my third kid was born and my wife got promoted. I used to wear a suit every day, had a 90 min
I was the fun dad who could party with the best of them. Then I wasn't fun anymore, just unreliable and angry. Got a DUI scare and finally decided to get sober. 18 months now witho
Went back to get my degree while working part time. Been almost three years now and I'm supposed to graduate next spring. What I lost: weekends with the family, a lot of sleep, mon
Realized I was controlling every aspect of my kids' lives and they were becoming anxious wrecks. Started backing off, letting them make mistakes, letting them be bored sometimes. I
Left my six figure job last year to be the primary parent while my wife focused on her career. Biggest change? I actually know my kids now. I know what they're scared of, what make
Used to be that guy staying up til 2am working on side projects, sleeping til 10. Now I'm up at 5 with my toddler every single day. Miss the uninterrupted time and honestly the sle
I was making good money working 60+ hour weeks, barely seeing my son. One day he asked why I wasnt at his school thing and something just broke in me. Took the leap, went freelance
Was the guy having beers every night, weekend parties, really leaning on it. Wife got pregnant with our second and I just realized I didnt want to be that dad. Almost 2 years sober
Pre-kids me was out every weekend, sleeping in till noon, hitting the bars with buddies. Now my idea of a good Saturday is farmers market, park, home made pizza with the family. My
Used to work 70+ hour weeks at a corporate job that didn't even care. Missed my son's first soccer game, my daughter's school plays, everything. One day my 6yo asked if I lived at
Okay so I absolutely love my kids and wouldn't change it but man do I miss sleeping past 6am on a Saturday. I miss taking a shower without someone banging on the door. I miss going
Never wanted kids, had a whole different life planned. Met my wife and suddenly I'm responsible for two teenagers. First year was brutal, felt like I lost myself. But over time som
Five years ago I was 280 lbs, spending weekends gaming and eating delivery pizza. My kids didn't want to do anything with me because I couldn't keep up. One day my 7 year old asked
Making six figures, barely seeing my family, stressed 24/7. Had a health scare at 42 that made me reassess everything. Took a risk and went to part time consulting from home. Cut o
Two years ago I was pushing 285, barely could chase my kids around the yard. Started running just to prove something to myself. Lost the weight, ran a half marathon, felt like I wa
This is probably obvious but man, nothing prepares you for how much your life gets put on hold. Can't just leave whenever. Can't take a weekend trip on a whim. Can't spend money on
Used to be the guy staying up until 2am playing CoD with the boys. Now I'm up at 5am because my 3 year old thinks that's breakfast time. Miss the uninterrupted gaming sessions hone