What I miss most about life before kids
Random morning sex. Sleeping past 6am. Watching whole movies without pausing. Going out without having to plan everything weeks in advance. Being able to be selfish with my time an
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Random morning sex. Sleeping past 6am. Watching whole movies without pausing. Going out without having to plan everything weeks in advance. Being able to be selfish with my time an
Left a six figure job at 42 to start a handyman business with my brother. Everyone thought I was insane. I was stressed 24/7, drinking too much coffee, barely saw my family even th
Man I was that guy who thought having kids would ruin everything. Spent my 20s chasing a good time, staying out late, spending money on stupid stuff. Got married at 28, first kid a
I was a functional drunk for way too long. My ex-wife took my kids when I finally hit bottom at 34. I was seeing them every other weekend and showing up hungover half the time. Th
Don't get me wrong, I love my two boys more than anything. But man do I miss the spontaneity. Waking up Saturday morning and deciding to take a road trip. Long showers. Conversatio
Used to work 60 hour weeks trying to climb the ladder. Thought that was what being a good provider meant. Then my daughter was born and suddenly that promotion didn't feel as impor
Three years ago I was the guy staying out until 2am on weekends, sleeping until noon, spending money on whatever I wanted. Now I'm the guy planning my social calendar around nap sc
A year ago you couldn't have told me I'd cry happy tears watching my kid take her first steps or that I'd spend 20 minutes just watching her sleep. I was all about career, making m
Honestly? Taking a shower without rushing. Just standing under hot water for like 20 minutes without listening for a baby monitor or feeling guilty that I'm not doing something els
Became a dad 8 months ago and everything I thought I was is gone. Used to be the guy who could just pick up and go somewhere on a whim. Could sleep until noon on weekends. Could ha
My wife and I used to be super spontaneous. Dates constantly, always trying new things, lots of romance. Now we're basically roommates who co-parent a tiny human. But something shi
Started at 310 this time 3 years ago. Couldn't tie my shoes or play tag with my kids. Doc said I was heading for a heart attack. I started just walking 15 minutes a day and cut out
Spent 18 years in corporate management hating my life and my job. Dead inside basically. My therapist finally said I needed to actually do something about it instead of just compla
I don't even know where to start. I was a mess, lost my marriage, almost lost custody. Today I picked my kids up from school and they actually wanted to talk to me about their day.
Five years ago I couldn't make anything besides cereal and sandwiches. Divorced guy, eating takeout constantly, spending way too much money. Then my kids came to stay with me full
Worked 60 hour weeks for 12 years. Always exhausted, always on my phone, barely knew my kids. Took a pay cut and switched jobs last year. Less money but I'm home by 5 most days. My
Two years sober. Used to be that guy who was checked out on weekends, more interested in being with buddies at the bar than at my kids's soccer games. Lost my marriage over it obvi
I used to care so much about my car being clean, my house being perfect, my job title. Now I've got goldfish crackers permanently ground into my truck seats and I genuinely don't c
Never planned to be a father so young. Had my whole life mapped out different. But somehow becoming a dad made me grow up in the best way. Killed a lot of stupid goals I had and re
Got sober when my daughter asked me why I smelled like beer at her birthday party. That was the gut check I needed. Two years later and I'm the dad I actually wanted to be. I miss