Getting Sober Changed Everything
Five years sober this month. I was a beer every night guy, then it became 6-7 beers. My kids were scared of me. My wife threatened to leave. I went to my first AA meeting absolutel
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Five years sober this month. I was a beer every night guy, then it became 6-7 beers. My kids were scared of me. My wife threatened to leave. I went to my first AA meeting absolutel
Seriously. Got promoted two years ago and finally got my financial act together. Before that I was living paycheck to paycheck, no emergency fund, credit card debt everywhere. Star
Took me three years but I finally did it. Started at 280, now sitting at 200 and I actually feel good about how I look. The weird part is people who haven't seen me in a while lite
Man, I don't even recognize myself sometimes. Five years ago I was that guy at the bar every Friday and Saturday, playing in a competitive softball league, hitting up concerts when
Everyone thought I was insane. Six figures in tech, good benefits, and I just walked away to swing a hammer. Been doing it for three years now and honestly best decision I ever mad
Five years ago I was drinking way too much, sleeping 4 hours a night, thought I was hot stuff. Then my daughter was born and I realized I was going to model this disaster for her.
Before kids I was spontaneous, had money, could sleep till noon on weekends, went out whenever I wanted. Now I'm a planner and a worrier. My identity went from being a person to be
I was selfish before my kids. Like genuinely only thought about myself and what I wanted. Becoming a dad forced me to grow up mentally and emotionally. I learned patience because y
Everyone talks about how being a dad changes you but nobody mentions that you end up working your butt off trying to be good at both. I went from being a guy who could focus comple
5 years ago I was sitting on the couch every night drinking beer and playing video games. Then my daughter was born and something just clicked. I didn't want to be the dad who got
I used to live for my band. We'd play shows every Friday and Saturday, sleep till noon on Sundays, just complete freedom. Got married, had two kids by 28, and now my life is schedu
Used to pack a bag on Friday and just road trip wherever. No plans, no reservations, just drive. Now I've got a mortgage, two kids in school, and I plan my life 3 months in advance
My buddies would say I was a pretty self absorbed dude before kids. Everything was about what I wanted to do, where I wanted to go, what made me happy. Had my first son at 32 and i
Worked nights for 7 years and finally landed a day job. People keep asking me what's different and honestly everything is different. I actually see my kids at dinner now instead of
People always want to know how I did it or what changed my mind. Honestly my kid asked me why daddy was always tired and that broke something in me. I was a functional drunk, nothi
Started running two years ago just to feel less exhausted. Now I do marathons. Before I couldn't play tag with my kids without getting winded. Now they can barely keep up with me.
Son is 3 now and I genuinely don't know when I became this person. Used to play in a band, go to shows, sleep till noon on weekends, make spontaneous plans. Now my personality is j
Quit my job 8 months ago to watch the kids while wife works. Everyone said I'd hate it but honestly I'm in a completely different headspace now. Used to define myself by my job tit
Haven't had a drink in 730 days. For real. Used to be the guy everyone wanted to party with, and now half my old friends don't call anymore. That identity is just gone. What I gain
Had that bike for 8 years. Felt like freedom on two wheels. Got married, had kids, and one day realized I hadn't ridden it in 6 months because I was scared of leaving my wife as a