How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Moved from Boston to Vermont when the kids were 2 and 4 and it was supposed to be temporary. Six years later we're still here and I barely recognize myself. I was always the guy wh
This might be long but I need to share it somewhere. My oldest is 4 now and I've been sober for 5 years, got clean right when we found out about the pregnancy. The guy I was before
Left my marketing job when my second kid was born and honestly it's been the weirdest identity shift. For 15 years I was that guy who lived for quarterly targets and networking eve
Wife got an amazing job offer a year ago and we flipped our whole dynamic. I went part time at my job and I'm handling most of the house stuff now. It's been humbling honestly. I u
Left my job of 12 years in sales where I was traveling constantly. Was missing my kids growing up and my wife was basically a single parent. Now I work remote and can actually be h
So two years ago I was just sitting around drinking beer every night, working a desk job, and feeling like garbage. My kids would ask me to play and I'd be too tired. One day my 6
Split from my wife last June. Moved into a tiny apartment and had to figure out who I was as a single dad with the kids every other weekend. Turns out I'm actually pretty decent at
Went back to school while working full time and raising two teenagers. Took 5 years but got my degree in software engineering. Now I'm making almost double what I was as a carpente
Not trying to be preachy but man. Was drinking heavy for like 8 years. My kids literally preferred their mom. Now my oldest actually wants me at his soccer games instead of avoidin
Hit 15 years in finance and just walked away. People think I'm crazy but honestly best decision ever. Used to be gone 6am-8pm, missed my kids growing up. Now I'm doing school runs,
Been doing this for 8 months now. Took a pay cut but I'm present for my kids which was the whole point. I'm at their soccer practices, I make dinner most nights, I see my youngest
I was a mess. Drinking every night, missed kids soccer games, terrible at my job. My wife gave me an ultimatum and I actually listened. Been sober 5 years now. Got promoted twice,
Started working out about 18 months ago just because my back was killing me all the time. Lost the first 50 pounds without even trying that hard, then got serious about it. Now I a
My father was checked out the whole time I was growing up. Barely knew him. Swore I'd be different and I actually followed through. It's hard sometimes because I don't have a model
Took the plunge after 15 years working 9-5 in the same office. Wanted flexibility for the kids. Some days I make way more money, some days I make nothing. The anxiety of not knowin
Started at 315 pounds. Kids made fun of me at their school. That hit different. Did keto, hit the gym 4 days a week, completely changed my eating habits. Took two years but I'm 230
So I quit my job as a marketing director last year and became a stay at home dad. Best and hardest decision I've ever made. Miss the paychecks and adult conversations, not gonna li
Five years sober this month. I was a beer every night guy, then it became 6-7 beers. My kids were scared of me. My wife threatened to leave. I went to my first AA meeting absolutel
Seriously. Got promoted two years ago and finally got my financial act together. Before that I was living paycheck to paycheck, no emergency fund, credit card debt everywhere. Star
Took me three years but I finally did it. Started at 280, now sitting at 200 and I actually feel good about how I look. The weird part is people who haven't seen me in a while lite