Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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So my company finally approved my request to WFH 3 days a week. Thought it'd be amazing - no commute, more time with the kids. Reality check: my 4yo keeps interrupting Zoom calls a
My company offers "flexible schedules" which apparently means they're flexible about when I work, not about HOW MUCH I work. So I can pick up my kid at 3pm, sure, but then I'm catc
Company approved it (!!) and I'm planning to start in March. But I'm nervous about a few things: Will I look bad career-wise when I come back? My industry isn't exactly family-fri
Baby #2 arrives in October and I'm taking the full 6 weeks my company offers. But honestly? I'm scared shitless about returning to work. With kid #1 (now 4), I went back after 2 we
My company is pushing everyone back to the office 3 days a week starting next month. I've been full remote for 2 years and honestly it's been great for being present after school p
Not gonna lie, used to be a frozen pizza guy. But with my 8yo and 6yo, I realized I was spending evenings cooking and not with them. Now Sundays: I batch cook. Chicken, rice, roas
Been freelancing/consulting for 3 years now. The flexibility is legit - I take my kids to school 4x/week, we eat lunch together some days, I can shift my schedule around doctor app
We're on waitlists at 6 daycares in the Seattle area. My wife's maternity leave ends in January and we have NOTHING locked in. The good places have waiting lists that are 18+ month
Had a conference in Denver last month, 3 days. No big deal, I've done tons of business travel. But this time I have a 4yo who was devastated when I left. My wife handled it fine, b
There was a conference in Vegas that I was "supposed" to attend. My daughter's school recital was the same weekend. I told my boss I couldn't go. Waited for the world to collapse.
I've been using this app to actually SEE where my time goes when I'm trying to work and parent simultaneously. It's kind of eye-opening seeing that I spent 1.5 hours yesterday on a
Posted this in another thread but wanted to share here. Got offered a senior director role at my company - 25% raise, bigger team, etc. The catch? It would require 2-3 nights/week
Taking 6 weeks in the fall and my boss keeps "joking" about me bringing my laptop to the hospital. I'm not joking when I say I won't be answering emails. But somehow I feel like I
I've been in finance for 12 years. Good salary, benefits, but I hate it and I'm never home. Twin boys are 5 now and I want to actually know them. I'm thinking about going back for
I'm a software engineer making solid money ($165k) but I travel constantly and my kids barely know me. I've been thinking about switching to like... sales engineering or something
Title change, $40k bump, corner office... everything I thought I wanted 3 years ago. But now my kids are 6 and 4 and I'd miss SO MUCH. My wife wants me to take it (the money would
Reading here how people struggle to be present after work and wanted to share what's been helping us. When I get home, I literally change clothes immediately - out of work pants, i
There's this weird cultural thing where dads are supposed to feel bad if they prioritize their job at all. Like I'm supposed to be thanking my lucky stars for every moment with my
Had to fly to Denver last week for 4 days and I couldn't stop thinking about my 5-year-old asking why I had to leave. He's in kindergarten and when I'm gone he has a hard time at p
Quick rant: we're paying $2,100/month for our 2yo at a decent (not even fancy) daycare in the SE Portland area. That's basically my car payment times two. I love our daycare but th