Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Been fully remote for 2 years now and honestly I love it. No commute, can have lunch with my family, see my kids after school. But it's also blurry. Sometimes I'm working till 7pm
Got offered a promotion that comes with more travel and responsibility. More money would be nice and it's good for my career but it means less time with the kids during the week. M
Worked for a year to set this up with my company and finally got the green light for 3 full weeks when the baby comes in July. I know a lot of guys don't get this chance and I'm ju
Got offered a big bump in title and salary but it comes with weekly travel, sometimes 2-3 nights a week. My wife is supportive but my oldest is 7 and asking when daddy's coming hom
For the past 18 months I've been remote and I've actually been present. I do pickup from school, I eat lunch with the kids sometimes, I can be flexible when someone's sick. Now man
Been at my company for 5 years and they finally approved my request. Baby number 2 is due in 6 weeks. Part of me is excited to actually be there for the first two weeks but honestl
Finally got the promotion I've been working toward for 5 years. More money, better title, everything I thought I wanted. Catch is I'd be flying out Sunday nights, back Friday. My o
Been working from home for 3 years now after pushing hard for it. I get to have lunch with my kids, help with school pickup, actually be present. My boss doesn't care as long as wo
Honestly guys, these two weeks have been the best and worst of my life. Seeing my newborn every single day, being there when he opens his eyes, helping my wife recover. Now I gotta
Work has been insane the last few months. Understaffed, project deadlines crushing us, emails at 10 PM about stuff that's not even close to urgent. I come home exhausted and I don'
Baby number two is coming soon and I'm taking 6 weeks off. Nervous about falling behind at work but also excited to actually be present this time. My first kid's early months are k
I work in construction management and sometimes I'm on site 10-12 hours a day. My oldest is starting to notice I miss his games and activities. I try to explain that daddy has to w
I'm back in the office 4 days a week after working remote for 2 years. My 8yo keeps asking why I'm gone during the day and my wife is stressed trying to handle pickup and homework
Started remote work 2 years ago and honestly best decision ever. I get to see my kids during lunch, no commute means I actually sleep more, and I can be there when they need me. Th
Got the promotion I wanted but now they want me traveling every other week. My kids are 5 and 7. This is supposed to be the good years with them and I'm gonna be on planes half the
When work gets insane I've found a few things that keep me from losing it. Using my lunch break to actually see my family instead of eating at my desk. Setting a hard stop time and
So I took 8 weeks off for paternity leave and it was amazing. Now I'm back and my boss already scheduled me for 3 conferences in the next month. My wife is handling everything with
Two years into remote work now and I can't imagine going back to the office. I get to have lunch with my kids, help with homework, and I'm actually present for things. But here's t
So the company approved my request and I start in 2 weeks. Should be excited right? But honestly I'm freaking out. My boss made it clear that a junior dev is taking my projects and
Not doing the dad thing enough because work is crazy. Not doing the work thing enough because I'm thinking about whether my kid is happy. Meanwhile my inbox has 200 unread emails a