Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Real talk: I have an opportunity to take a director role at a competitor. Significant bump in title, pay, and resume building. But it's at a company known for aggressive hours cult
I do freelance writing on evenings/weekends trying to build a college fund for my 8yo and 5yo. Sounded good in theory—make extra cash, stay sharp, build something for their future.
Doctor said my blood pressure is borderline high and asked about stress. I listed everything: job demands, commute, kids' schedules, aging parents, general financial anxiety. He li
Got offered a director role last week that would've meant travel every other week and longer hours. 2 years ago I would've jumped on it immediately. But my oldest is 6 now and actu
Trying to figure out where my time actually goes. Downloaded Toggl Track and it's eye-opening how much time I waste. Curious if other working dads use this to optimize their schedu
My boss calls our policy "flexible" because technically I can take time off when I need it. But in practice, if I leave early for a school event, I'm working at 11pm catching up. I
I know it's expensive ($1,600) but with newborn #2 I couldn't function on 1-hour sleep chunks like I did with my first. The Snoo actually gets babies to sleep longer – it's not mag
I've been trying to make this work for 6 months now and I'm at my limit. My company 'allows' remote work but it's really just me pretending to work while my son destroys the house
Been working from home since my son turned 2 and it was fine when he was in preschool 3 days a week. But now he's home full time this summer and refuses to nap anymore. How are peo
Is it just my house or is 5:30-7pm an absolute shitshow? I get home from work, I'm tired, kids are tired, my wife is at her limit from daycare pickup and the whole day. Everyone's
Sharing because I see a lot of people struggling with this setup. My schedule (wife takes earlier shift so I have mornings): 6:30am wake up, prep my stuff 7-9am: Kid watches carto
My company "requires" 3 days in office. But my boss text me at 7am on my work-from-home days asking about project updates, and there's always some meeting that "really needs you he
This happened last week and I'm still processing. My marketing job got restructured and they're offering me a senior role in a different division. More money, bigger title, also se
I work in sales and it's draining. Come home and literally have nothing left. My wife says I'm "checked out" during family time but like... I have no energy to engage. I'm not scro
So my wife and I started sharing a detailed calendar where we block out who's handling what - pickup, dinner, bedtime, etc. Sounds simple but it's cut down arguments about "why did
I'm thinking about leaving finance to do something less demanding. Currently at a big bank in NYC doing 60+ hour weeks (before kids this was fine, now my 2yo and newborn are home w
So I stepped back from a senior manager role to an individual contributor position at the same company. Less pay (about 15% cut), but way less stress and zero people managing. My d
Been doing 7am-3pm instead of 9-5 for the past 3 months. I requested it because mornings with my kids before school was basically me yelling to hurry up while I'm also getting read
That's it. That's the post. 😅
So when you work from home, there's no commute to decompress. You close your laptop at 5pm and immediately you're DAD MODE. But then at 9pm when the kids are in bed you're suddenly