Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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And honestly? Zero regrets. Last year I went to a conference in California and missed a similar event. She asked me about it when I got home and I could tell she was hurt even thou
I leave at 4:30pm every day to pick up my kids. It's in my employment agreement and everything - I don't work late or weekends to compensate. Not ideal hours but I deliver results.
Took the hardest W's today. Director position opened up in my department - would've been a 15% bump and "the next step" in my career. But it's 60% travel, lots of evenings, and my
My 4yo asks me every morning if I'm going to the airport today and I hate how his face drops when I say yes. I was away for 5 days last week and missed his soccer game. He told his
Got asked to go to Vegas for a 3-day conference next month. It's actually a good opportunity career-wise but my son is still super attached to me (and takes terrible bottles from m
That's it. That's the post. I muted my phone. It can wait til Monday.
Started tracking how I actually spend my time (work, with kids, alone time, household stuff) and it's eye-opening. Turns out I was massively underestimating how much time I spend "
My last straw was missing my 5yo's soccer game because of a 4pm meeting that could've been an email. Just rage-quit during the game when my wife texted me a photo. Told my boss I w
She went back to her job 5 months post-baby and honestly we underestimated how much this would shake things up. She's exhausted, I'm exhausted, baby is in daycare, and somehow the
So I got recruited for a role that explicitly caps hours at 40/week max, slightly lower pay than I make now, but fully remote. On paper it sounds perfect. But part of me is like...
Started freelance writing on the side about 8 months ago when I went down to 4 days/week at my job. Honestly? It's the best decision I made. I make maybe $800-1200/month which help
I work in construction, so some weeks I'm out the door at 5:30am and home at 6:30pm. My kids (4 and 7) are already fed by the time I get there. They're tired. I'm exhausted. We may
Seriously, is this normal or are we getting robbed? Looking at places for our 18mo and everything is $2k+ a month. We have two kids (3yo in pre-K), so we're looking at like $3,500/
Seriously. $2200/month for my 2-year-old in the DC area. That's more than my car payment, more than our mortgage payment almost, and it's literally the cheapest option near us. I'm
TL;DR: Convinced my boss to let me do 4 long days (10 hours) instead of 5 regular days so I can be home by 2pm on Wednesdays. Started last month and honestly it's been a game chang
That's an exaggeration but she was COLD to me. Took hours for her to warm up. My wife said she asked about me every day but I guess that wears off. This is my third trip this quart
School's 8:30-2:45, my hours are 8-5. Daycare for the gap costs almost as much as school. My 2nd grader just sits in aftercare for 2+ hours 4 days a week doing... nothing mostly.
Ngl I see a lot of posts about making bedtime sacred and being fully present with your kids. Cool, that's nice. But like... sometimes I'm just tired? Sometimes I read the books on
We use Google Calendar but it's a mess with divorce stuff (custody schedule, handoff days, my work calendar). Wife's new partner is also in the mix sometimes. Looking for something
Left a stable $130k role in May to do consulting. Wanted flexibility, wanted to be there for pickup, wanted to call my own shots. Pros: I've actually made 3 pickups this year. Ki