Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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We live in Seattle and paying $2,100/month for my 2-year-old to go to daycare 3 days a week. THREE DAYS. My wife makes more so it made sense for me to cut back, but holy crap, at w
Been using Supportiv for the past few months to talk through work anxiety (mostly the guilt/stress of being gone 50+ hours/week) and it's genuinely helped more than I expected. Way
I leave the office at 5:30 most days, home by 6. So I'm there for dinner, bath time, bedtime stories. Sounds perfect right? Except I'm checking Slack the entire time. Last night my
Asking for a friend. (It's me. I'm the friend.) Some days I just sit in the parking lot for 10 mins before heading home and decompress. Work stress + home stress + being "on" all t
Wife just had our second kid 3 weeks ago. I have a conference in Denver in 4 weeks that's pretty important for my career. It's 3 days. Part of me thinks I should just skip it. Par
Our daycare just raised rates to $2,400/month for our 18-month-old. TWENTY-FOUR HUNDRED. That's more than our mortgage payment. My salary after taxes and this daycare bill basicall
Been asking about this for like a year. My manager finally approved me working 7am-3pm instead of 8-5. Means I can pick up my kids from school instead of them going to after-care.
Just got back from a 4-day conference in Vegas. My kids were fine, my wife held down the fort. Logically I know this is normal and necessary. But my 3yo wouldn't make eye contact w
I get home by 4:30 most days and I should be PRESENT, right? But my brain is mush. I'm not working anymore but I'm scrolling my phone, half-listening to my kids tell me about their
Two weeks in and honestly, best decision I've made since becoming a dad. Working 4 days a week, Fridays with the kids now. Yeah, money is tighter but my oldest (7) actually remembe
Just want to recommend. If you work in tech/software and your company has flexible hours, actually USE them. Don't just assume you have to be in from 9-5. I shifted to 7am-3pm so
Remember me from 6 months ago asking if anyone had switched careers after kids? Well I did it. Took a teaching job at a local high school that pays about 40% less than my finance g
Just got the quote for our second kid starting in Sept and I'm actually sitting in my car at work writing this because I'm too embarrassed to show my wife in person. $2,400/month f
FINALLY. Been at this company 4 years and they just updated their policy. My third kid is due in 2 months and I'll actually get to take real time, not just burning through PTO. Pla
We're looking at $2,400/month for 3-year-old and $2,100 for before/after for the kindergartener. That's $4,500 a month. Our household income is like $180k combined and this feels i
Just got back to work after 6 weeks with my newborn (baby #2) and honestly I'm already missing it. The first few weeks were chaotic - mom was freaking out, I had no idea what I was
I'm not proud of it but I mark myself as in meetings when I'm actually at my son's soccer practice. My company says they're "flexible" but there's definitely a culture of 60-hour w
So I've been trying to do my job from home while my son naps and after bedtime, but our daycare is closed Wednesdays for staff training. Yesterday I had back-to-back client calls s
Real question: have any of you found companies that genuinely don't make you feel like garbage for having parental responsibilities? Like where "my kid is sick and I need to leave"
OK so I sell custom wood signs on Etsy. Started 4 months ago as a joke basically. Spend like 90 minutes 3-4 nights a week in the garage after my kids are asleep doing the work. Fi