Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Quick update for anyone who read my post last year about starting freelance writing on nights/weekends. I'm now pulling in $800-1200/month consistently, which doesn't sound like mu
We keep double-booking ourselves because we're using different systems (she's iCal, I'm Google). Need something that actually syncs and maybe lets us see each other's work availabi
I pick up my kids at 5:45pm. They want my attention immediately. I'm exhausted. Brain is fried. All I want to do is zone out with my phone but they're asking me to play with them,
Started freelancing on weekends to save for a house down payment. Seemed simple - 5 hours Saturday/Sunday. But now I'm doing it at night after the kids are asleep and it's like...
Got the senior role I've been gunning for, but it's 2 weeks/month travel. My youngest starts kindergarten in August. I keep telling myself the money is worth it, the prestige, the
Title bump, 15% raise, but definitely more hours expected. My twins just turned 6 and are actually at fun ages now - they remember stuff I do with them, we can have conversations,
I've tried Google Calendar blocking, Toggl, RescueTime, all that stuff. The problem is I block the time but then something "urgent" comes up and I move it anyway. Looking for some
Anyone else WFH with a young kid in the house? My son just turned 4 and daycare is $2,100/month so we pulled him out for summer. I thought I'd "just manage" but I'm losing it. Had
My wife and I are constantly double-booking stuff or missing events because we don't have a single source of truth for what everyone's doing. She's got stuff in her Google calendar
Just realized that because of my work schedule (leaving at 7am, not home till 5:30pm) and my son's school pickup being at 6pm, I basically see him for 30 minutes before bed. He's c
My daughter is 4 months old and I have 12 weeks of parental leave available. Company policy lets me use it anytime in the first year. Wife's suggesting I take it all at once when s
Which is great! I'm genuinely proud of her. But also... she's now working 50-55 hour weeks and traveling monthly. We had a pretty even split on kid stuff but that's about to get a
This is embarrassing to admit but I notice that when I get home from the office, my brain is still basically at work. My kids are talking to me and I'm nodding along while mentally
Been testing out both apps the past month. Calm seems better IMO—the courses are less hokey and I actually use them. Headspace feels more corporate. I do 10 minutes in my car after
So I've been working from home for 8 months now and my daughter is 3. My wife goes back to work next month and we're gonna try keeping her home with me 3 days a week to save on day
Not trying to be dramatic but seriously. My wife was completely burned out, I was working 60-hour weeks, we hadn't had a real conversation in months. I had some PTO saved up and ju
Sitting in a 4pm meeting today that could've been a Slack message. Everyone's just chilling, no rush. Meanwhile I'm watching the clock because I'm supposed to get the kids and my m
Looking into it as an option. Seems like it could be cheaper than our daycare and maybe more flexible? But also kind of nervous about the whole thing. You're basically hiring a ran
Got transferred to our Boston office last month and the 90-minute commute each way is absolutely wrecking us. I leave at 7am, don't get home til 6:15pm, kids are already at that we
My wife wants to stay home. We have a 2yo and she's been WFH but wants to fully step back. Sounds amazing - less childcare costs, less stress, one person managing the household. B