Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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After about a year of chaos, we finally cracked it. Clothes picked the night before, backpacks packed, breakfast is just cereal (not trying anymore), I shower Sunday night instead
OK so I started a dropshipping thing about 8 months ago thinking I'd make some extra cash. It's actually doing OK - maybe $1,200/month profit right now. But guys... I'm spending 1
My company is "hybrid" which means 3 days in office, 2 days remote. Sounds good in theory but it's actually a nightmare. I have to do daycare drop-off every morning, which means I'
Running this thing in the evenings/weekends for about 4 months now. It's basically nothing money-wise but it's actually working? Selling niche coffee gear to people online. Not d
Anyone in the PNW? We got a quote from a center near Ballard - $2,850/month for our 18mo old. TWO THOUSAND EIGHT HUNDRED AND FIFTY DOLLARS. My wife makes good money but like... thi
I'm drowning. 50hr weeks, two kids, wife works 40hrs. We're both exhausted. I'm doing the "stress relief" tips (meditation, exercise) but honestly those feel like band-aids on a bu
Real question: are you just... doing this forever? Working enough to not be broke, trying to be a good dad, repeat? Or does anyone have an actual plan to get out? I'm 38, my kids a
I make decent money ($85k) but my kids are 5 and 8 and I feel like I'm missing everything. They're in school now so at least mornings are easier, but I'm working 50+ hour weeks and
I make $75k gross. After taxes ($15k), my wife's full-time daycare costs ($21k), and commuting/lunch out ($4k), my actual take-home is... basically nothing. So technically I work f
Took a pay cut (about 15%) but been doing this for 3 months now and wanted to share in case it helps someone. I negotiated Fridays off and honestly the extra day with my kids has c
My company offered 2 weeks paid, which I realize now is pathetic compared to some places, but I took it when our daughter was born in July. Spent the second week just doing baby st
Got promoted last month to manage a small team, fully remote. On paper this is the best scenario - I'm home, I can be with my kids, no commute. But it turns out managing people is
Made the jump last month. Went from full-time management at a tech company to 4-day weeks doing freelance consulting. Financially it's tight - we're in Denver and costs are insane
So I've been WFH for about 8 months now and honestly it's gotten worse not better. My daughter just turned 3 and she's at that age where she NEEDS constant attention. Our daycare i
So I've been remote for 2 years and it's been great, but man... today my 4yo has strep and my 6yo apparently caught it. Wife is at work (her job doesn't allow WFH) and I have back-
Wife texted me a photo and I almost cried at my desk. My 5yo has been such a huge part of my routine and now there's just... a newborn. A newborn who doesn't even recognize me yet.
This might sound weird but I feel this constant pressure that MY job is the "primary" one even though my wife makes nearly as much as I do. We're both working full-time, but someho
We were doing pretty good with 3 remote days. Cut to 1 day starting next month. I have a 5yo in school and a 2yo at home with my mom during the day. The 2yo is sick constantly (day
I travel maybe 2 weeks/month for my consulting job. It's good money and I like the work, but every time I leave I feel like I'm abandoning my family. Last week my son asked if I w
How is anyone managing this? I'm supposed to be in back-to-back Zoom calls all day but my son keeps bursting into my home office asking for snacks, wanting to show me his drawings,