Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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This is just a vent but UGH. We had a "quick discussion" about Q2 planning and my boss casually mentioned I should plan to be in Denver for a conference for 5 days. I have a 4yo an
We're thinking about doing a nanny share with another family instead of the daycare we're at. Same cost basically, but our 2yo would be home with a caregiver + one other kid. Pros
Not gonna lie, felt weird saying no to my boss today. It was a director-level position that would've been a 40% raise, but it required being in the Atlanta office 3 days a week. Wi
Anyone else struggling with this setup? I'm in a 2BR apartment in Austin and my daughter's daycare has been closed for 2 weeks due to flooding. I work in tech (SaaS sales), so I'm
Our company just partnered with this flex-work platform and I'm thinking about setting up a Tue/Wed/Thu in-office schedule. Has anyone here used it? Worried about whether employers
Never thought I'd see the day. Negotiated into a senior manager role that's 95% remote with maybe 1 week/month travel instead of the typical 4-5 weeks. They actually valued my requ
Wasted 3 months and like $800 trying to start a side hustle while working full-time with two kids. I had this fantasy of making an extra $2k/month. Reality: I had no time, was exha
I've been in tech sales for 8 years. Good money, solid benefits, but the hustle culture is real and it's eating me. I have a 5yo and 2yo. My wife asked yesterday if I'm "always goi
Tried working from home today while my 18mo had a fever. Got maybe 45 minutes of actual work done in an 8-hour day. My boss kept messaging asking about the project. Had to finally
I know this is selfish and I know kids have preferences. My wife is the primary parent and that makes sense. But damn, it still hurts when my 5yo asks for mom when he's hurt, or wh
Honest question. Daycare is $1900/month, we cut back where we can, but I'm constantly thinking about whether we're making enough. My wife makes $65k, I make $78k. We're in Denver s
Being home with the kids is exhausting and chaotic and honestly, I like work more. The quiet, the adult conversations, the tangible accomplishments. But admitting that feels like I
lol this is weird to admit but I'm scared I'll be bad at full-time dad duty. I've been working 50+ hours for 4 years and suddenly I'm gonna be the primary caregiver? My wife keeps
Anyone else in the Boston area dealing with this? We're looking at $2,400/month for a decent place and I'm genuinely considering quitting my job because it would barely cover dayca
Wanted to share a win - I transitioned from full-time to a 3-day/week arrangement at my company back in January. Numbers: went from $145k to $87k, but I'm actually AHEAD financiall
Random but I prepped lunches for the whole week in these instead of the usual plastic stuff and honestly? Changed the game. They're durable, the kids' lids are way easier than snap
Switched companies in October and I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. But it's been 3 months and people actually... log off? My Slack doesn't blow up at 9pm? Took a small
Leaving my current place after 6 years. New role pays better, smaller company (50 people), and during interviews I was very explicit about needing flexibility for school stuff. Th
Real talk - some evenings I just sit at my desk until 6:30pm because I can't face sitting in traffic AND then immediately being "on" as a parent. Is that terrible? My commute is 45
I keep seeing people talk about side hustles like it's just... a thing you do. But where do you find the TIME? My wife and I are both working full-time, we have a 5yo and a 2yo, an