So I have my kids (7, 9, 12) Mon-Wed and every other weekend. The problem is my ex keeps pushing swaps last minute because of her work stuff. Last week she asked me to take them on my off day THREE times. I said yes twice because I didn't want to be "that dad" but now I feel like I'm being taken adv...
Small win here - been working with a child therapist on communication and yesterday my 9yo and 11yo actually told me what's been bothering them about switching houses. Turns out they hate that my ex doesn't pack their stuff for transitions and they feel like they have to remember everything themselv...
Yeah. Reddit. I asked what he was reading and he got all defensive but turns out he was on the gaming subreddits and minecraft communities. I mean... it could be worse? But I didn't know he was there and he's definitely not seeing appropriate content because Reddit doesn't filter. Had to explain the...
Thinking about trying meal prep on Sundays to actually eat healthy instead of whatever's easiest after work. The glass ones from Costco look decent but they're pricey. Are they worth it or will they just collect dust like my air fryer did?
My daughter (12) wants to go to a concert but her mom (my ex) won't let her go. I think she should be allowed to go - it's age appropriate, safe venue, I'd take her. But I also don't want to undermine what her mom decides. Do I just stay out of it or is this something I should weigh in on? This co-p...
We keep fighting about chores and me not doing stuff around the house. She thinks I'm just avoiding work, and maybe I am? But I genuinely feel like I don't have the energy. I wake up, do work, try to be present with the kids, and by 8pm I'm completely fried. I suggested seeing someone and she was li...
Not in a bad way necessarily but like, my wife is completely consumed by our 5-month-old daughter. Which is beautiful and I love watching her be an amazing mom, but sometimes I miss just... being able to talk to her about normal stuff? Yesterday I tried to tell her about something that happened at w...
My rule: no screens on school nights, limited on weekends. Their mom: basically lets them watch whatever. My 11yo is constantly asking why my rules are "so strict" and says all his friends get more screen time at their moms' houses. I don't want to be the "hard ass" dad but I also think constant gam...
Wife and I are still debating this for our son due in 6 weeks. I'm leaning yes because that's what I had, wife is leaning no because she read some stuff about it being unnecessary. Haven't found any good resources that aren't super biased one way or the other. What's the actual reasoning people use ...
I swear there's like a whole social hierarchy in the carpool line now. Some parents legit get upset if you're not in the "right" spot or don't know which kid belongs to which family. My 6yo just wants to get picked up and go to the park but apparently that's not how this works? Just picked him up ye...
Been drilling these with him since September and honestly thought we were fighting a losing battle. Kid would get frustrated, I'd get frustrated, whole thing was a mess. But last week he just... got it? Like the light bulb went on. Now he's flying through his math worksheets and actually ASKING to d...
5yo and 8yo. My wife was skeptical but I wanted to prove I could handle it. We went to this spot near Bend, Oregon. Cooked hot dogs, told ghost stories, one kid peed in a bush instead of using the toilet tent (not naming names), and we all slept in one massive pile of sleeping bags bc the 5yo was "s...
Every time I have to enforce a boundary (like, my rules at my house) my 8yo comes back and says 'mom says you're being mean.' Or 'mom said you don't actually want us here that much.' Like I get that custody is hard but filling his head with stuff like that feels... not okay? How do I handle this wit...
Anyone here in Portland or nearby (Beaverton, Lake Oswego, etc)? I'm on paternity leave with my 4-month-old and going absolutely insane. Would be cool to meet up at a park or something with other new dads who actually understand what this is like. My friends without kids are getting tired of hearing...
Anyone in the PNW? We got a quote from a center near Ballard - $2,850/month for our 18mo old. TWO THOUSAND EIGHT HUNDRED AND FIFTY DOLLARS. My wife makes good money but like... this is basically her entire salary going to someone else watching our kid. Meanwhile we're both working 50+ hour weeks. L...