How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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I used to play in a competitive soccer league twice a week and spent my weekends hiking. Now I haven't gone hiking in like 2 years. My gear is probably moldy at this point lol. Som
Real talk - I miss rock climbing so much it hurts. Haven't been to the gym in almost 2 years. My buddies still ask when I'm coming back and I honestly don't know. Some of the other
So I was that guy who obsessed over my car, spent weekends detailing it, went to car meets every month, had a whole community around it. First time my son got in the car seat I was
Got an entire shower by myself today. No interruptions. No one asking where I am. Just stood there like a normal human being. My wife watched the kids and I got 20 minutes of peace
Real talk, I'm struggling here. My buddies want me to join their volleyball league again and I said yes thinking it would be fine but now I'm looking at the schedule and my daughte
I work out, I'm in decent shape, but being a dad is destroying my body in new ways. My back hurts from picking up toddlers, my knees are shot from crawling around, and I can't reme
Before: I was a software engineer, bassist, gym rat, whiskey enthusiast, travel guy. Now? I'm mostly just 'dad' with those other things crammed in the margins. Is it weird that I'm
Used to waste like 3 hours a day at work just scrolling or in pointless meetings. Now I have a hard stop at 5pm because I need to pick up my son. That pressure actually made me way
I'll start: impromptu road trips. No planning, just throw some cash in your wallet and drive wherever sounds cool that day. Now everything needs a 3 week advance notice and a diape
Seriously though. I used to be that guy who could spontaneously drive to the coast for the weekend. Now I'm googling "best snacks for car rides" at 10pm. My wife showed me a photo
Ok not actually a cult but like, you can't relate to your friends without kids anymore. They're talking about their weekend hiking trips and brunches and I'm over here getting emot
It took me literally 8 months to get through it because I could only read like 5 pages at a time before someone needed something. But I FINISHED IT. And I actually remembered what
So last week my buddy texted inviting me to Vegas for his bachelor party. Old me would've been packed in 10 minutes. New me? I asked about the dates, thought about logistics, what
My wife and I are at like year 4 of having kids and we're kind of ships passing in the night lately. We're both exhausted, we don't talk about anything real anymore, it's all logis
Interesting observation I'm making at 3 years in. The guys who have kids? Still my friends. The single guys? Total ghost situation. Which is weird because I'm the one who changed b
Used to cook dinner from scratch like 5 nights a week. I was that guy who enjoyed it, watched cooking shows, the whole deal. Now Tuesday is frozen pizza night and Thursday is 'what
Before I became a dad I was the guy who could talk your ear off about movies and music and tech stuff. Now when people ask me what's new I just talk about my kids' developmental mi
Okay so I'm not complaining, I adore my kids, but I'm curious what everyone else misses from before. For me it's the spontaneity. Wanted to drive 4 hours to a brewery? Done. Wanted
My spending habits completely changed. Used to drop money on concerts and gadgets and random stuff without thinking. Now every dollar is accounted for or going to the kids. Don't g