How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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I was a corporate drone making good money but barely saw my kids. Wife made more so it made sense financially. Been doing this for 18 months now. Best part? I know everything about
So I used to be that guy staying up till 2-3am grinding on PS5, sleeping till noon on weekends. My apartment was basically a man cave with energy drink cans everywhere. Fast forwar
Man, 5 years ago I was that guy. Every Friday night was about getting out with the boys, sleeping in on Saturdays, staying up til 2am on my hobbies. Life was mine to do whatever. T
I was making really good money working 70 hour weeks. Had the nice house, the car, all that. But I was missing everything. My oldest's first day of school, baseball games, just ran
Not trying to be preachy but this was my life changer. Used to drink 4-5 nights a week, called myself a social guy. My boys barely knew me because I was either hungover or out. Got
Worked in finance for 12 years. Made good money, had status, everyone knew my name at work. Also had stress that made my face break out, was drinking every night to unwind, and mis
Became a dad at 24. Wasn't planned. One day I'm this guy with guitars and ambitions to be a musician, next day I'm working full time at a warehouse trying to keep it together. Basi
So I used to be that guy. You know, the one who'd hit the bar on Friday, sleep til noon on Saturday, spontaneous road trips, staying up til 3am playing poker. I was lean, I had tim
Had my son when I was way too young, wasn't planned, and honestly I was terrified. I was just starting out, living with roommates, partying on weekends, no real direction. Now at 2
Free time. Just being real, nothing else comes close. The ability to read a book without interruption, go to the gym without arranging coverage, sleep until 9am on Sunday. My wife
This is weird to admit but becoming a dad made me actually care about being a good person. I'm more patient, more thoughtful, way less selfish. In college I was kind of a mess - th
Most of my friends don't have kids yet and I feel like I'm living in a completely different world now. They're still doing weekend trips and staying out late and I'm over here plan
Not gonna lie, becoming a dad destroyed my metabolism. I was ripped before kids, now I've got a dad bod for sure. Used to spend 2 hours at the gym every day. These days I'm lucky i
Before I became a dad I was that guy at the bar every weekend, sleeping until noon, zero responsibilities. Now I'm meal prepping for the week, I'm in bed by 10pm most nights, and m
I was that guy always chasing the promotion, working weekends, checking email at dinner. Lost my marriage because of it. When my ex-wife kicked me out, it forced me to actually loo
Gained the best moments of my life watching my kids discover things. Lost the ability to be spontaneous or sleep past 6am. Gained a real sense of purpose. Lost my marriage feeling
Before kids I was doing the bar league bowling thing, poker nights, fantasy football was my whole life basically. Had my buddies over all the time. Now with two kids I'm home by 6,
I used to make major decisions based on what I wanted. New job? Take it if the money was good. Wanted to travel? Booked a ticket. Now literally everything is filtered through how i
Used to actually go to the gym, had abs, dressed decent. Now I own five gray t-shirts and jeans with mysterious stains. Haven't been to the gym in two years. I've gained like 30 po
I'm not going to go into all the details of what I was doing before but basically I wasn't here. Even when I was physically present I was checked out. Hit rock bottom about 2 years