Divorced and became a weekend warrior dad
Used to have them every day. Now it's every other weekend and one night during the week. Still getting used to saying 'when I have the kids' instead of just 'my kids.' Whole routin
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Used to have them every day. Now it's every other weekend and one night during the week. Still getting used to saying 'when I have the kids' instead of just 'my kids.' Whole routin
I was a manager. Meetings, conference calls, the whole thing. Defined myself by my job title and the paycheck. My wife made more anyway so we did the math and I tapped out. First
So I used to work nights for 8 years. Slept during the day, was awake all night. My whole identity was built around being that guy who could function on 4 hours of sleep and hang o
Three years sober now. Used to be the guy at every party, knew everyone, always had plans. Turns out a lot of those friendships were just drinking buddies. Lost most of them when I
Used to hit the gym 5-6 days a week, tracked macros, the whole thing. Was in the best shape of my life at 32. Then twins happened and I just stopped. No time, no energy, priorities
Before kids I was all about me. Spent money on stupid stuff, went out whenever, had a clean truck. Now I'm the guy clipping coupons and driving a minivan with Goldfish crumbs in th
Used to stay up til 2am playing video games and sleeping til 10. Now I'm up at 5 with the kids before anyone else. Honestly I don't even recognize myself but I wouldn't change it.
Had a six pack, worked out every single day, tracked macros obsessively. First two years of fatherhood? Forget it. Between no sleep and living on pizza and coffee I gained 40 pound
Used to be really out of shape, probably 80 pounds overweight. Couldn't keep up with my kids, got winded playing in the yard. Started working out about 2 years ago just because I w
I don't usually post personal stuff but figured someone here might need to hear this. I was drinking every night for years. Not the fun party kind, just numbing myself kind. My kid
Moved from a big city to a small town when my oldest was born. It was terrifying, gave up a career I worked 10 years to build. But my wife's family was here and we wanted to raise
My ex and I had a rough split 5 years ago. Lots of anger and fighting and our kids were caught in it. We were that couple where the kids had to relay messages between us. It got so
Before kids I was that guy constantly climbing the ladder, working 50+ hours a week, checking emails at dinner. Got promoted twice in 5 years but barely knew my kids. My wake up ca
Left my job as a marketing manager last year to stay home with the kids while my wife went back to work. Best and hardest decision I've ever made. I miss the paychecks and honestly
Two years post-divorce and I'm finally not depressed all the time. The first year was rough, man. Thought I'd lost my identity. Went from married guy with a house to apartment livi
Turned 35 and had a kid 6 months ago. My entire friend group still doesn't get it. They still text me to hit the bars on Friday nights and I'm like yeah no I'm going to bed at 10pm
About a year and a half ago I realized my 4 year old asked me why I couldn't run with him. That hit different. Started small, just walks around the block. Now I'm down 45 pounds, h
Three years ago I could barely walk up stairs without getting winded. Now I just completed my first 5K race. Sounds simple but it changed everything about how I see myself. I'm not
Five years in corporate sales. Good money, terrible hours, worse stress. My first son was born and I missed it because of a stupid client dinner. That night I decided something had
Married my high school sweetheart, had kids right away, got the house, the minivan, the whole thing by 28. Completely different life than my buddies who traveled and slept till noo