How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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I'm not usually the guy to post personal stuff but I need to say this somewhere. Two years ago I was drinking most nights, missing my kids's soccer games, and my marriage was hangi
Seeing some old photos from 2014 yesterday and wow. I was barely holding it together. Drinking too much, always angry, my kids barely knew me even though I lived with them. Got div
3 years ago it was just me and my wife, sleeping past 10am on weekends, taking spontaneous trips, nice dinners out. Now we have 3 little ones (one set of twins surprise!) and I'm r
I know everyone dreams about leaving their soul-crushing office job and I finally did it last year. I'm my own boss, work from home, no commute. Should be living the dream right? W
Started at 285, down to 205 now. Everyone's telling me how great I look and congrats, you must feel amazing. And I do physically, but honestly I'm kind of lost. Spent so much menta
Started a side hustle that actually took off when my oldest was born. Spent years stressed about money, couldn't take family trips, always worried about paying rent. Now we're comf
Took a remote job 2 years ago to save on daycare and be more present. Sounds great right? Wrong. My identity was wrapped up in being the guy who went to the office, got dressed up,
3 years sober now. Used to be that guy at barbecues, always had a beer in hand, made bad decisions, missed important stuff. Lost custody for a while which was the wake up call I ne
Quit my overnight job 6 months ago and honestly it's been wild. For 8 years I was sleeping during the day, working nights, barely saw my kids awake. Now I'm at school pickups, help
After the divorce I got primary custody and had to leave my corporate job to make it work financially and logistically. Honestly one of the best things that ever happened to me. Ye
Separated in 2019, divorced in 2020 and I was basically a shell of a person for like 2 years. Now in 2024 and I'm genuinely happy. Got back into shape, started dating again, got my
Going through the separation made me realize how much my own parents' divorce affected me and how different I wanted to be. Had some real conversations with my dad about it and we'
I don't regret leaving but man I miss the simple stuff. I miss not having to plan my entire life around pickup schedules. I miss my kids being in one house. I miss sleeping past 6a
Man, I don't even recognize the guy I was before my kids were born. I was that dude who'd wake up at 6am on Saturday to hit the gym, then grab beers with the guys until midnight. H
Never thought I'd be a dad. Married my girlfriend last year and became stepdad to her 7 year old basically overnight. This kid was skeptical of me for months which honestly crushed
Got laid off after 15 years in tech sales. Spent two months actually present at home for the first time since my oldest was born. Started coaching my son's soccer team, helping my
This time last year I was pushing 280 lbs and barely could walk up stairs without getting winded. My doctor basically said I needed to make changes or I was heading for serious pro
Spent 12 years at a soul-crushing corporate job. Long hours, toxic boss, always stressed. Switched to a smaller company doing similar work but way better environment. Take home les
Hit rock bottom when my kids didn't recognize me one morning. Got into AA right after that and honestly it saved my life. I'm not gonna pretend it was easy - first year was brutal.
Married my wife when her kids were 4 and 7. Biggest life change imaginable. Used to be pretty selfish with my time and now everything revolves around school schedules, soccer games