The guy I was vs the guy I am now
Used to be that guy who went out with friends every weekend, stayed up till 2 AM, didn't care what time I woke up. Now I'm excited about a 8 PM bedtime and I'm googling how to get
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Used to be that guy who went out with friends every weekend, stayed up till 2 AM, didn't care what time I woke up. Now I'm excited about a 8 PM bedtime and I'm googling how to get
Before kids I could sleep 12 hours on a Saturday and still feel tired. Now I'm waking up at 5:30 AM every single day with like 6 hours of sleep and I'm somehow more energized than
Before kids I had this whole image of who I was. Had hobbies, worked late, spent money on stuff I thought mattered. Then my first was born and I just felt lost for like a year. Cou
Took the leap 18 months ago. Left a stable VP role with health insurance and a 401k to start a consulting firm. My wife thought I was insane. First 6 months were terrifying, checki
Seven months ago I made the jump. Worked nights for 12 years, slept all day, barely saw my kids awake. My wife got a promotion that made way more sense financially for us to flip i
Wanted to share this because I know a lot of guys on here are going through separation or divorce. I spent 8 years being someone I wasn't. Spent 8 years managing someone else's emo
This is embarrassing to admit but I was that guy. Spent 3 hours a day in the gym, meal prepped everything, would get mad if I missed a workout. My kids basically grew up with me be
Crazy how life changes. I was making decent money, traveling every week, at the office before 6am and leaving after 6pm. Missed my daughter being born basically, and when I was the
Never thought I'd be one of those guys but I'm not gonna lie, having kids made me want to actually take care of myself. Used to be a couch guy, ate like garbage, drank too much bee
I used to be the guy who wanted to go out every weekend, parties, clubs, hanging with the guys constantly. Now I have two kids under 5 and honestly I dread going out. I'd rather be
I used to stay up until 2am gaming and watching shows. Now I'm up at 5 every morning because my 2 year old has a biological alarm clock that does not snooze. Honestly I miss the la
This might sound harsh but I was pretty self-centered before. My needs came first. Got married and that shifted a bit but I still had that core 'me first' mentality about a lot of
Used to put in 60+ hour weeks chasing promotions. Got one right before my first kid was born and you know what? It meant nothing. I was missing everything. Took a step back to a di
Pre-kids me would just say 'let's go to Vegas this weekend' and we'd leave on Friday. Now planning anything requires military logistics with nap schedules and babysitter availabili
Had a guitar I loved playing before kids. Haven't touched it in almost 4 years. Same with the model cars I used to build. All that stuff just got pushed aside and honestly I don't
I got married and became a dad within like 18 months of each other. Looking back I miss the spontaneity. Want to grab beers at 9pm on a Thursday? Could just do it. Sleep till noon
Been working from home for 2 years now and I'm having an identity crisis. I used to be the guy with the commute, the work clothes, the separate identity from dad. Now I'm in the sa
Took the leap last year. Left a six figure job because I was missing everything and burning out hard. People thought we were crazy. But my kids actually know their dad now instead
5 years ago I was 280 pounds, worked a desk job, and thought my athletic days were long behind me. Started running just 2 miles because my doctor said I had to do something. Today
Growing up my dad was all tough love, no emotions, just rules. I was doing the same thing to my kids until my wife basically said something has to change. Spent the last year worki