Quit Drinking - Never Thought I Could Do It
Two years sober this month. Nobody thinks I'm cool anymore but I don't care. I can remember my kids's birthdays now, I remember conversations with my wife instead of blacking out h
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Two years sober this month. Nobody thinks I'm cool anymore but I don't care. I can remember my kids's birthdays now, I remember conversations with my wife instead of blacking out h
Man I gotta say this hits different. Five years ago I was the guy closing down bars on weekends, sleeping till noon, no real responsibilities. Now I'm up at 6am making lunches for
Three years sober now. I was that dad who had a few beers every night, thought it was normal. Lost a promotion because I showed up hungover one too many times. Almost lost my marri
This is gonna sound cheesy but whatever. I was heavy for like 8 years after my second kid was born. Just let it go, didn't think it mattered. But I was always tired, sweating throu
Married for 12 years and we just couldn't make it work. It's been two years since the split and I'm in a weird place. Some days I'm excited about new possibilities, other days I mi
So I used to be that guy who'd sit around all evening after work just scrolling and drinking beer. No exercise, no hobbies, just existing. Then my kid asked me why I couldn't play
Three years ago I was sleeping on my buddy's couch, paying child support I could barely afford, drinking too much on weekends. Started going to therapy because my ex said I needed
I used to make 140k in finance. Commuted 2 hours each way, missed my kids growing up, was always stressed. One day my son asked if I was coming to his soccer game and I realized I
18 months sober. Started drinking in college to fit in, kept drinking because I didn't know how to stop. Got married because that's what you do, had kids because that's the next st
Spent years after college trying to be nothing like my old man. Thought he was boring, too practical, always choosing responsible stuff over fun. Fast forward 10 years, I'm married
Five years ago before kids I was at the gym 5 days a week, had abs, ran marathons on weekends. Now I'm 40, got a solid dad bod, and you know what? I don't miss it as much as I thou
Pre-kids me slept 8 solid hours every night, took naps on weekends, would stay up late just because I could. Now with a 2 and 4 year old I'm lucky to get 6 hours and it's broken up
Not gonna lie, I almost didn't post this. But someone here inspired me last year and now I want to do the same. Three years ago I was 285 lbs, hadn't exercised since college, and s
My wife made more money so it made sense for me to stay home with the kids. Honestly it was the best decision we made. But now they're both in school and I'm feeling lost. Started
Spent 15 years hiding this. Was the 'perfect' husband, had the kids, did everything right on the outside. But I was dying inside pretending to be someone I'm not. Last month at 42
Marriage ended 2 years ago. Spent the first year just broken and angry. Now I'm actually dating and getting to know who I am as a person outside of being someone's husband. Turns o
Before my son was born I had this image of myself as a pretty independent, detached kind of guy. Didn't think I'd be one of those emotional father types. Had the kid and something
Hit rock bottom when my kids were 4 and 6. I was missing soccer games, forgetting important stuff, barely present even when I was physically there. Wife gave me an ultimatum. Got i
Two years ago I couldn't run a quarter mile without feeling like I was dying. Got tired of feeling like garbage all the time and my doctor basically said I needed to make changes o
I'm not gonna get into all the details but I was a mess. Drinking every night, missed kids' games, my wife almost left me, the whole thing. Went to my first AA meeting kicking and