Lost my marriage and found myself
Divorce was the hardest thing I've ever been through. Spent about a year just spiraling. But somewhere in that mess I stopped blaming her and started looking at my own stuff. Went
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Divorce was the hardest thing I've ever been through. Spent about a year just spiraling. But somewhere in that mess I stopped blaming her and started looking at my own stuff. Went
I was a functional alcoholic for years. Thought I had it under control. My kids probably don't even remember a lot of their childhood because I was checked out. Got sober 3 years a
Got laid off 2 years ago after 15 years climbing the corporate ladder. Devastated at first. But I've been home since then doing freelance stuff and I actually know my kids now. Lik
Left a 6 figure salary 18 months ago to start a handyman business with my brother. Sounds insane when I say it out loud. My wife thinks I'm crazy some days. Honestly the money par
So I quit my job at the warehouse about 2 years ago when my second kid was born and my wife got a promotion. Best and worst decision I've made honestly. I miss the paycheck obvious
I'm not usually one to get deep on forums but I'll share. 4 years sober. Was a pretty heavy drinker, not like homeless bad but enough that it was wrecking things. My wife threatene
Used to be the guy who made excuses. Too old, too out of shape, too busy. Started running 3 years ago just trying to lose weight after my doctor scared me straight about my blood p
So I was a corporate guy for 12 years making decent money. Wife made more so when our first was born we did the math and decided I'd stay home. Best decision I ever made but also w
Just realized the other day that a decade ago I was pretty much just focused on myself. Slept till noon on weekends, spent money on stupid stuff, went on random road trips whenever
Before kids I was basically living at bars and concerts. Had a pretty solid friend group and we'd always have plans. Now I'm 39 with two kids under 5 and honestly I haven't been ou
So I used to be that guy. Thursday night bar crawls, spontaneous road trips, sleeping till noon on weekends. Now I'm the dad who gets excited about a good night's sleep and plans h
I was a heavy drinker. Not rock bottom but getting close. Found out we were having a baby and something just clicked. Realized I didn't want my kid to have the kind of dad I had. S
Spent 15 years climbing the ladder at a big firm. VP title, six figures, completely miserable. Then my son got sick for a bit and I realized I'd missed like everything. Changed job
This is kind of embarrassing to admit but I was that dad who saw his kids every other weekend and just let screens raise them. I'd give them money instead of time, miss important s
Quit my six figure job two years ago to be home with the kids while my wife works. Everyone thought I was insane. Family was supportive but I could tell some thought it was weird.
Had my 5 year sobriety anniversary last month and I'm just blown away by how much has changed. I was a mess, lost custody, sleeping on couches. Now I have my kids 50% of the time,
I was all about climbing the ladder, thought being a successful executive made me a good provider and father. Turns out I was stressed, angry, and missed so much. Burned out hard a
My father was cold, distant, always working. I swore I'd be different and I really tried, but I realized recently I was repeating a lot of his patterns. Started unpacking that with
Had a kid at 22, thought my life was over. Worked construction for years, told myself I was too old to go back to school. Finally did it at 30, finished my degree at 34 while worki
Biggest wake up call was my son asking me why I didn't come to his soccer game. I MISSED it because of a meeting that didn't even matter in the end. That was 18 months ago. Changed