How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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My daughter is 4 now and I'm actually starting to feel like myself again, just like a dad version. Joined a basketball league, reconnected with old friends, found a little time to
We used to decide to take a weekend trip on Thursday and just go. Now I need to coordinate sitters, pack 47 items we probably don't need, and plan our entire day around nap schedul
Before kids I never paid attention to playgrounds or family friendly restaurants or how many outlets a coffee shop has. Now those are the first things I notice about any place. My
Spent way too much money on a jogger stroller thinking it was stupid but honestly it's the best purchase I've made since becoming a dad. I actually take my kids on runs with me now
Before kids I was getting up at 5am hitting the gym regularly, always trying to PR. Now my workout is chasing my toddler around the backyard for an hour and then carrying his 35lb
Had my first kid last year and I gotta say, nothing prepared me for how much better everything got. Like yeah, the sleepless nights are real and my career took a hit because I actu
If you told me 3 years ago I'd be genuinely excited to spend Saturday mornings at the park watching my son figure out how to go down a slide I would've laughed. But here I am. Thos
Went to my first therapy session in years (highly recommend btw, lots of new dads are losing it and not talking about it) and she asked this question and I literally could not answ
I used to play in a band, went to concerts every month, travelled, read actual books. Now I'm just dad guy. All conversations are about sleep schedules and daycare costs. My buddie
I'm not complaining about being a dad because I love my kids more than anything but sometimes I catch myself and realize I can't remember the last time I did something just for me.
This is a rant. I hate that I can't just text friends and say 'drinks tonight?' anymore. Everything requires negotiation with my wife about whose turn it is, babysitter costs, bedt
I used to play in a competitive soccer league twice a week and spent my weekends hiking. Now I haven't gone hiking in like 2 years. My gear is probably moldy at this point lol. Som
Real talk - I miss rock climbing so much it hurts. Haven't been to the gym in almost 2 years. My buddies still ask when I'm coming back and I honestly don't know. Some of the other
So I was that guy who obsessed over my car, spent weekends detailing it, went to car meets every month, had a whole community around it. First time my son got in the car seat I was
Got an entire shower by myself today. No interruptions. No one asking where I am. Just stood there like a normal human being. My wife watched the kids and I got 20 minutes of peace
Real talk, I'm struggling here. My buddies want me to join their volleyball league again and I said yes thinking it would be fine but now I'm looking at the schedule and my daughte
I work out, I'm in decent shape, but being a dad is destroying my body in new ways. My back hurts from picking up toddlers, my knees are shot from crawling around, and I can't reme
Before: I was a software engineer, bassist, gym rat, whiskey enthusiast, travel guy. Now? I'm mostly just 'dad' with those other things crammed in the margins. Is it weird that I'm
Used to waste like 3 hours a day at work just scrolling or in pointless meetings. Now I have a hard stop at 5pm because I need to pick up my son. That pressure actually made me way
I'll start: impromptu road trips. No planning, just throw some cash in your wallet and drive wherever sounds cool that day. Now everything needs a 3 week advance notice and a diape