Three years ago I was a different person
Looking back at pictures from when my kids were born, I was skinny, had hair on top of my head, and went out every weekend. Now I'm 40 pounds heavier, completely bald (which honest
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How life changed since becoming a dad. Identity shifts, things you miss, things you gained, the transformation of fatherhood.
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Looking back at pictures from when my kids were born, I was skinny, had hair on top of my head, and went out every weekend. Now I'm 40 pounds heavier, completely bald (which honest
When I separated from my wife two years ago, I thought all our couple friends would stick around. Nope. Only like three people actually checked in to see how I was doing. One buddy
Had a great job, fit body, nice car, was going places. Then life happened. Custody battle drained my savings, stress caused health issues, and I had to take a step back from my car
Before kids I was known as the guy who coached soccer, went on camping trips, had a tight friend group. Now I'm just "dad". Every conversation revolves around the kids. I can't rem
Seriously. I used to take 20 minute hot showers and just zone out. Now I'm in and out in 5 minutes because I'm worried something's happening with the baby. Even when my wife is wat
Used to sleep till noon on weekends, go out drinking with the boys whenever I wanted, and my free time was actually free. Now I'm up at 5am no matter what, my buddies stopped invit
I thought becoming a dad would just mean losing stuff, losing time, losing freedom. But man, I didn't expect to gain this whole new perspective on what matters. I used to stress ab
Before kids my buddies and I would just pack a cooler and drive to the beach for the weekend whenever we felt like it. No planning, no logistics, just go. Now I need to coordinate
My oldest is up by 6:30 AM every single day no matter what. Used to be able to be a zombie for half the day on weekends but those days are gone. I'm not gonna lie, some mornings I
Used to be pretty selfish about my money and time. Didn't really think about retirement or college funds or any of that stuff. Had a kid and suddenly I'm comparing 529 plans and li
Used to weigh 280, never worked out, just complained about being tired all the time. My kids wanted to ride bikes and I couldn't keep up. Started working out just to have energy fo
Ten years ago I was hitting bars 3 nights a week, sleeping till noon on weekends, basically doing whatever I wanted. Now I'm the guy packing snacks for soccer games and worried abo
Made the jump 2 years ago. Wife's income was enough, I was missing everything, and honestly the rat race was killing me. People thought I was crazy. But being home with my kids has
Spent 15 years climbing the corporate ladder, sacrificing everything, and I was miserable. Quit last year and started my own thing. Money is tighter right now but I have control of
Five years ago I was completely different. Travel, late nights, no responsibility, and honestly I thought having kids would ruin my life. Met my wife and everything shifted. Had ou
3 years clean as of yesterday. I'm not the same person I was. Old me was angry, unreliable, my kids barely knew me. I missed my daughter's first day of kindergarten because I was h
Got split custody 2 years ago and it forced me to become a better father. When I had the kids full time I was reactive, stressed, doing the bare minimum. Now that I have them half
Ten years ago I was planning to be that guy with the fancy car and the corner office. Married my college girlfriend, thought we had it figured out. Then kids happened, then the mar
Not gonna lie, I miss sleeping past 6am. I miss spontaneous weeknight beer runs with the boys. I miss my free time and my money and not having to plan every single thing. But I loo
Got divorced when my son was 2. I was a corporate guy working 60 hour weeks, missed so much with him. Now I'm running my own consulting thing from home, doing school pickup, packin