My son is 8 weeks old and everyone keeps talking about how I should be bonding with him or feeling this instant love or whatever. Honestly? I feel like I'm just doing tasks. Change diaper, feed, bounce, repeat. My wife seems to have this connection with him that I don't have yet and it makes me feel...
Like yeah I roughhouse with them and watch cartoons but I also pay the mortgage and the car insurance so technically I'm like a half parent at least right? She just shakes her head at me. Help.
We switched to formula at 8 weeks because breastfeeding wasn't working and we all desperately needed sleep. Logically I know this is fine and healthy and the kid is thriving. But every time someone asks "are you breastfeeding?" I feel this shame like I failed. I see Instagram posts about "fed is bes...
Our second kid is due in 6 weeks and I'm trying to figure out what to actually request. My company offers 12 weeks parental leave but I'm worried about optics if I take more than 4-5 weeks. Nobody else on my team has taken the full amount. Am I overthinking this? What did you guys actually take and ...
Thinking about trying an online therapy platform since scheduling around work + 2 kids is impossible. Have heard mixed reviews on BetterHelp - some people say it saved them, others say it's too impersonal. The price point seems reasonable though. Does anyone here actually use it regularly? Curious a...
Been on it for about 4 weeks now and the anxiety is definitely down (which is great) but I feel kinda numb emotionally? Like I can be present with my 6yo and 3yo but I'm not really *feeling* it, if that makes sense. My therapist said it can take time to balance out. Just wondering if anyone else had...
Not like relationship-ending resentment but like... she gets to sleep in on weekends and I'm up with the kids. She has friend time, I don't. She went to yoga twice last week and I haven't had 30 minutes alone in I can't remember when. Then she gets frustrated that I'm "checked out emotionally." Tbh...
My ex lets the kids eat whatever they want, stay up till 11pm, and basically do whatever. When they come to me, my rules feel super strict by comparison even though I'm just trying to maintain basic structure. I've tried talking to her about consistency but she says "you're not the boss of me" whic...
My company offers "flexible schedules" which apparently means they're flexible about when I work, not about HOW MUCH I work. So I can pick up my kid at 3pm, sure, but then I'm catching up emails from 8-11pm. Or I can take Friday afternoon off but I'm expected to answer Slack on Saturday morning.
Going back to work in 2 weeks and honestly I'm spiraling a bit. Been home with my daughter for 3 months and I feel like I've just gotten to know her. She's smiling, recognizing me, I was there for all her firsts. How am I supposed to go back to sitting in meetings and pretending to care about quarte...
It's been almost 2 weeks now and I'm not gonna jinx it but... I think we're actually done with the 3am visits? We did the whole routine change thing - later bedtime, white noise, kept the door open for like a month - but holy crap I forgot what 7 straight hours of sleep feels like. My wife and I act...
Saw a guy at work with the new Pro Max and he kept going on about the camera. Mine works fine? Battery lasts all day. Does the new one actually do anything different or are we all just getting suckered into upgrades? Asking because my wife keeps hinting that I "deserve" a new phone for my birthday w...
Baby's 8 weeks old, second kid. Wife's doing okay actually. But I'm absolutely struggling. Zero motivation, everything feels pointless, I'm snapping at people for no reason, sleeping like garbage even when I get the chance. I keep reading that postpartum depression is for moms but honestly I think t...
We went to one of those paint-a-pot studios last weekend (I think it's called Pottery Cool or something similar?). I was expecting to hate it but honestly it was lowkey great. Gave him something actual to focus on instead of just running around. He spent like 90 min on a bowl, came home, we glazed i...
Just sat out there for like 20 min after work. Didn't even know I had it in me to cry but something about the pressure just broke. She was really sweet about it, didn't make it weird, just sat with me. But now I'm nervous about what it means or if she's going to worry about me differently. I'm usual...