Is yelling at your kids when you're frustrated something you can actually change or is it just how you're wired? Asking for a friend (it's me, I'm the friend). My therapist says it's a pattern I developed and I can learn different ways to respond but it feels impossible in the moment. Any actual str...
Got a Weber Genesis like 5 years ago and it's been solid but lately I can't keep it consistent. Cleaned the burners, replaced the flavorizer bars, checked the seals. Still fluctuating like 50 degrees. Is it time to look at a new grill or am I missing something obvious? Don't want to drop 800 bucks i...
"did you pack jake's soccer stuff?" "remember his asthma inhaler" "he needs a haircut soon" "btw his teacher wants to meet about grades" All during the times he's with me. I KNOW my kid. I've been doing this for 5 years. I don't need play-by-play instructions. But if I don't respond right away she ...
Started with good intentions - bought my 9yo an iPad Pro for art class and to do research for projects. Guess how long it took before he figured out he could download game apps I didn't know about? Found him playing some sketchy racing game at 11pm on a school night last week. I'm so frustrated beca...
Got invited to my son's classmate's 8th birthday party last month and it was held at a TRAMPOLINE PARK with a professional party coordinator. Professional. Coordinator. For 8 year olds bouncing around. There were like 15 kids, a DJ, and someone face-painting the entire time. The 'gift' suggestion wa...
Just wanted to share something that worked for us. Instead of just springing my new girlfriend on my kids (8, 11), I told them first that I was seeing someone and asked how they'd feel meeting her. Let THEM ask questions. Didn't show pictures, didn't oversell it, just answered what they asked. When...
Every single night right before bed my 2yo decides to jump from pillow to pillow screaming "LAVA LAVA" and it's somehow the funniest thing that's ever happened to her. Wife and I are trying so hard not to laugh because we know we're rewarding the behavior but man it's impossible. This kid is gonna h...
I explicitly told my boss that I need to be home by 6pm to help with bedtime routine. He knows I have three kids. So WHY does he keep scheduling calls at 4:30pm that "definitely" run past 5:30? I've left early twice anyway - staying late is not negotiable - but now I'm worried it's impacting how he ...
Kid asked why the bananas were green and I said 'because they haven't seen the sun enough' and now he wants to take them outside for tanning sessions. I've created a monster. This is my life now
Started taking my anxiety meds 6 weeks ago and finally feel like they're kicking in. Actually stayed late at work today WANTING to finish a project instead of just wanting to escape. My boss even mentioned I seem more engaged. It's wild how much a difference this made. Still have bad days but they'r...
Work is insane, kids are needy, wife's frustrated with me for not helping enough even though I feel like I'm doing everything, and I'm tired all the time. Like bone-deep tired. Not sleeping well, no energy, food tastes weird. Can't remember the last time I did something just for me. Everyone depends...
First kid due in August. We live in an urban area (Portland) with lots of stairs and mixed terrain. The Uppababy Vista keeps getting recommended but it's so expensive. Bugaboo seems cooler but also expensive. Are these worth it or am I getting suckered by marketing? What do you all actually use?
My daughter starts K next month and I need a lunch box that: - Actually keeps food cold (our current one is trash) - Doesn't fall apart after 2 weeks - Is small enough for a 5yo to open/close - Won't cost me $40 Been seeing the Bentgo boxes everywhere but wondering if they're worth the hype or jus...
Genuine question. When I work past 6pm, which has been 2-3x a week lately, my wife handles bedtime solo and says the kids are bouncing off walls because they know dad might still show up. Then I DO show up at 7pm and obviously they want to hang out. Bedtime becomes 8:30 or 9. We're all miserable. Am...
So I was that guy who obsessed over my car, spent weekends detailing it, went to car meets every month, had a whole community around it. First time my son got in the car seat I was terrified he'd spill something. Now? There's goldfish crackers literally everywhere and you know what, I don't care any...