Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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Got a job offer in Denver. It's a huge opportunity - like 40% raise - but I have 50/50 custody in California. My ex will absolutely say no to me moving with the kids. Do I have any
This is fresh and I'm still angry so forgive me if this is rant-y. My 9-year-old came back from his mom's place and casually mentioned she said I 'don't care about his education' b
My 10yo repeated something really cruel I said about their mom last week and it destroyed me. I was venting to a friend who was over, thought the kids were upstairs. They weren't.
After a lot of research and honestly therapy-recommended steps, I introduced my girlfriend to my boys (ages 7 and 9) last month. Here's what I did: Waited 7-8 months Kept first me
I don't even know why but every time it's my day to pick up the kids, I get this knot in my chest the hour before. We've been separated for 3 years. It's fine. We're not fighting.
Just got back from our mandatory mediation session about the custody adjustment we've been fighting over. Spent $800 for a mediator to basically say "try harder to communicate" whi
Ok so this might sound dumb but I'm genuinely proud of this. My ex and I have been doing 50/50 with our 6yo for about 4 months and last week we managed to communicate about a sched
Do you all do anything special about clothes when it's 50/50? My ex keeps sending expensive outfits but then the kids come back to me with stuff missing or damaged. I feel weird as
Like, I'm literally texting my ex about our kids through an app because we can't text each other normally anymore. It feels dystopian. Everything is documented, formal, logged. I m
I've been dating someone for about 8 months now and she's great with my kids. My son (12) and daughter (10) already like her. She wants to stay over next weekend when they're here
We just started using it for communication and the shared calendar. It's kinda great tbh - no more miscommunications about pickup times and I have everything documented if we ever
Been tracking all shared expenses (activities, medical, school stuff) in OFW and at the end of the month I send her an itemized breakdown. Before I was just... eating costs and see
Long story short, my job moved to Denver and I need to relocate in 6 months. Current arrangement has my kids (13 and 15) with me 40% of the time. My ex has said she's 'not interest
Quick question - if I'm fighting to increase my custody time from 40/60 to 50/50, does child support automatically adjust? Asking because that's her main push-back even though she
Currently using Our Family Wizard but honestly the interface is kind of clunky and I keep missing notifications. Anyone using anything better? Price isn't really the issue, I just
So my ex and I have 50/50 with the kids (ages 6 and 9) and Halloween falls on my ex's night this year. The kids are already asking if they can trick-or-treat with me instead. I don
This one hit different. He's 6 and my custody is Tue/Thu/Sat-Sun so I miss his Monday game. His mom takes him, posts videos, the whole thing. He asked me why I 'don't come to them
Tired of texting with my ex turning into drama. I've heard about OurFamilyWizard, Talking Parents, and custody X change. Anyone actually use these? Do they really help keep things
So my ex and I do the Wednesday evening / every other weekend thing, and I'm wondering if I should be making the pickups happen at a neutral location instead of her place. Right no
My 9yo came back from her mom's place asking why I didn't pay for her soccer camp. I PAID FOR IT - sent a check to the organization three weeks ago. Apparently my ex never told her