Navigating custody, handoffs, and co-parent communication.
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He's 13 and ever since the divorce (3 years ago) he just shuts down during our weeks. Won't tell me about school stuff, his friends, nothing. Answers in one-word responses. His mom
I hate even typing this out. My son told his mom he'd "rather stay home" during his scheduled time with me. He's 11. I have him Wed nights and every other weekend. His mom thinks
Idk why but every Sunday when I drop my kids off is brutal. My 7yo gets quiet and withdrawn, my 4yo cries. Ex says they settle down after 20 mins. I believe her but man, those good
Monday mornings when I drop the kids at school after having them the weekend hit different. My 5yo gets clingy, my 9yo is grumpy, and I'm trying not to cry in the carpool line. T
lol so our agreement says she gets $800/month, court ordered. She keeps sending me Venmo requests with notes like "daughter's soccer" or "dental work" and expects me to just... pay
It's October and my ex is already demanding to switch Christmas. We have it in writing that I get Christmas morning but she wants the actual Christmas Day this year because her fam
Wednesday and Sunday evenings are honestly the worst. My 6yo gets so clingy and anxious about leaving, and my 4yo sometimes cries in the car for the first 10 minutes. I know it's n
Divorce is final next month and we're trying to nail down holiday agreements. She wants Thanksgiving week and Christmas Eve-Dec 25, I want Christmas evening through 26th, New Years
Ouch. She's 10 and apparently that's the new descriptor for why her room at mom's (redone with new furniture, pink everywhere, very Pinterest) feels 'better' than her room at my pl
Title says it. Does it actually make co-parenting easier or is it just another thing to check? We're still pretty civil so I'm not sure if we need the formal expense tracking and m
Posted here a bunch about struggling with the back-and-forth with my ex over custody schedules. We finally hammered out something that works for our situation. We're doing 5-2-2-5
Just wanted to share: my son was having a really hard time with the split (happened 18 months ago) and I noticed he was keeping track of everything I said about his mom - like he w
Been doing 50/50 with my ex for about 2 years now (kids are 7 and 9). The original schedule was Mon-Wed with me, Thu-Sat with her, alternating Sundays. Sounds simple right? Except
I've been seeing someone for 4 months and things are getting serious. My kids (ages 6 and 8) will meet her for the first time this weekend - just casual, we're going to the park. I
So according to our agreement: she gets Thanksgiving odd years, I get Thanksgiving even years. I get Christmas morning, she gets Christmas afternoon (which is honestly terrible). N
We're 2 years into the split and my 16yo still gets grumpy/withdrawn on the day he switches houses. Doesn't matter which direction - he comes to me sullen, stays that way for a few
We had to go through a custody evaluation because we couldn't agree on placement. Our evaluator was Dr. Patel in Portland - honestly she was fair and thorough. She spent time with
Things have been civil but tense. Last week I mentioned (via text) that I might be going back to school. My ex immediately assumed I was planning to cut child support and accused m
My 5yo started kindergarten and she's having trouble adjusting between my place and mom's place. Different routines, different expectations, different kids in the neighborhood. Our