Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Been running a freelance design thing on the side for about 8 months, making decent money ($1200-1800/month), but I'm working from 9pm-midnight most nights after the kids are aslee
Why does every company do this??? I have specific hours I'm trying to protect (8:30am-3pm is basically my actual work window with kids), and yet every meeting invite either wants m
4 months ago I posted here about starting freelance copywriting after my kids went to bed. Just hit $800 in revenue this month (admittedly small potatoes) but it feels good to have
Simple question from my 7yo yesterday: "Dad, why do you work so much? You're always tired." I gave her the usual answer about supporting the family and she just... looked at me. D
Do any of your companies offer flexible start/end times where you can work 7am-3pm instead of 9-5? Thinking about pitching this to my manager since it would let me pick the kids up
I use: Slack (deleted app from my phone, only check on computer during work hours) Google Calendar (color coded so work blocks are obvious) Freedom (blocks distracting sites after
First time taking it (second kid). With my first I only took 2 weeks because I didn't understand how valuable it was. Has anyone done an extended paternity leave (8+ weeks)? What
Anyone else just sit down and do the math? Here's what we're paying monthly in the DC area: Infant room (2yo): $2,400 Toddler room (4yo): $1,850 That's $51,600/year before taxes
Our infant care is $2,100/month for 3 days a week. THREE DAYS. I make decent money but I might as well be working for the daycare. We're looking at switching to a nanny share but t
Our second kid is due in 6 weeks and I'm trying to figure out what to actually request. My company offers 12 weeks parental leave but I'm worried about optics if I take more than 4
Used to be I'd leave the office and that was it - work brain switched off. Now WFH 4 days/week and I literally can't turn it off. Having dinner with my family but mentally reviewin
Negotiated down to 4 ten-hour days starting next month. I'll lose about 8% pay but gain every Wednesday. My company was surprisingly cool about it—apparently they're trying to be m
My company just announced "flexible hours" which sounds great until you read the fine print. Have to be in office 10am-3pm every day for "collaboration." So it's just... shifted th
Left sales (high pressure, constant grind) to go into project management at a mid-size company. Lower stress, better hours, less commission stress. Takes pressure off our household
Took 6 weeks with my newborn (thanks to our company's decent policy). Going back Monday and I'm legit anxious about leaving my wife and son. Know it's normal but ugh, the guilt is
6 weeks approved (using up PTO + some unpaid time). My first real chunk of time at home since my youngest was born. Wife's going back after 12 weeks, so I'll have both kids for a f
So I've been WFH for about 8 months now and my wife just went back to work part-time. I'm supposed to be "watching" our 3-year-old while taking client calls. Yesterday I had a Zoom
We've been hybrid (2 days in, 3 home) for two years. Now upper management wants everyone back. My wife manages her own schedule so childcare could work, but like... why? Our team i
Not sponsored or anything, but been using Togetherly with my wife to just... coordinate everything. Dinners, pickups, doctor appointments, work deadlines, who's cooking, who has ba
So my company finally approved my request to WFH 3 days a week. Thought it'd be amazing - no commute, more time with the kids. Reality check: my 4yo keeps interrupting Zoom calls a