Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Been working from home for 2 years now and honestly it's a double edged sword. On one hand I get to see my kids before they leave for school and I'm there when they get home. On th
Had an opportunity to move up to team lead which would mean 50% travel and longer hours. Would be a nice pay bump but I know myself, I'd never see my family. My career is important
Took 8 weeks with my newborn and it was incredible. Now I'm back at the office 5 days a week and I feel like I'm missing everything. My son is already changing so fast. I know I ne
Quick question - I've been skipping lunch most days (eating at my desk if I eat at all) so I can leave by 4pm instead of 5pm. Gives me an extra hour with the kids before they get c
I know everyone talks about how great remote is, and don't get me wrong, I love being home. But man, getting out of the house 2 days a week has been a game-changer for my mental he
Started doing freelance copywriting gigs on the weekends and made $2,100 last month. Kids are finally asleep by 9pm now so I've got 2 hours to work before bed. Not huge money but i
Seriously. I just sat through a 45-minute status meeting where the same info could've been in a 2-minute Slack message. That's 45 minutes less with my kids before bedtime. And I ha
Looking for recommendations on apps or tools that help manage the mental load. I use Asana for work projects but everything else is chaos - calendars, mental health stuff, trying t
Real talk: I have an opportunity to take a director role at a competitor. Significant bump in title, pay, and resume building. But it's at a company known for aggressive hours cult
I do freelance writing on evenings/weekends trying to build a college fund for my 8yo and 5yo. Sounded good in theory—make extra cash, stay sharp, build something for their future.
Doctor said my blood pressure is borderline high and asked about stress. I listed everything: job demands, commute, kids' schedules, aging parents, general financial anxiety. He li
Got offered a director role last week that would've meant travel every other week and longer hours. 2 years ago I would've jumped on it immediately. But my oldest is 6 now and actu
Trying to figure out where my time actually goes. Downloaded Toggl Track and it's eye-opening how much time I waste. Curious if other working dads use this to optimize their schedu
My boss calls our policy "flexible" because technically I can take time off when I need it. But in practice, if I leave early for a school event, I'm working at 11pm catching up. I
I know it's expensive ($1,600) but with newborn #2 I couldn't function on 1-hour sleep chunks like I did with my first. The Snoo actually gets babies to sleep longer – it's not mag
I've been trying to make this work for 6 months now and I'm at my limit. My company 'allows' remote work but it's really just me pretending to work while my son destroys the house
Been working from home since my son turned 2 and it was fine when he was in preschool 3 days a week. But now he's home full time this summer and refuses to nap anymore. How are peo
Is it just my house or is 5:30-7pm an absolute shitshow? I get home from work, I'm tired, kids are tired, my wife is at her limit from daycare pickup and the whole day. Everyone's
Sharing because I see a lot of people struggling with this setup. My schedule (wife takes earlier shift so I have mornings): 6:30am wake up, prep my stuff 7-9am: Kid watches carto
My company "requires" 3 days in office. But my boss text me at 7am on my work-from-home days asking about project updates, and there's always some meeting that "really needs you he