Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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So I took 8 weeks off for paternity leave and it was amazing. Now I'm back and my boss already scheduled me for 3 conferences in the next month. My wife is handling everything with
Two years into remote work now and I can't imagine going back to the office. I get to have lunch with my kids, help with homework, and I'm actually present for things. But here's t
So the company approved my request and I start in 2 weeks. Should be excited right? But honestly I'm freaking out. My boss made it clear that a junior dev is taking my projects and
Not doing the dad thing enough because work is crazy. Not doing the work thing enough because I'm thinking about whether my kid is happy. Meanwhile my inbox has 200 unread emails a
Had to leave 45 minutes early yesterday for my son's orthodontist. Rescheduled my meeting, let my team know. My manager pulls me aside today saying I need to be more 'reliable' and
My company finally approved my paternity leave request and I should be excited but I'm already anxious about coming back. There's a huge project launching while I'm gone and I feel
Got offered a promotion that's basically a dream role. The money would be great and it looks incredible on a resume. Problem is it's a startup role and they want commitment. I have
Anyone else struggling with this? My wife went back to work part time and now I'm supposed to watch our toddler while taking client calls. I've had to reschedule like 5 meetings th
I leave at 4:30 most days to pick up my youngest from daycare. One of the guys made a joke in front of the whole team about my 'flexible schedule' and winked. It was meant to be fu
Been remote for 2 years and my boss kept scheduling meetings at 7am. I'd be waking up the kids, missing breakfast with them, whole thing was a disaster. Finally just told him I can
So I'm 6 weeks into my paternity leave and my company just told me they're bringing everyone back to the office 3 days a week starting next month. My wife is going back to work par
Turned down a promotion that would've meant more travel and longer hours. My kids are 4 and 7 and I realized I was already missing too much. Took a lateral move instead to a less d
Working from home was supposed to be amazing for family time but honestly it's blurring everything together. I'm in back to back meetings while my 6 year old is asking me to play,
Just got back to work after 10 weeks and I'm honestly devastated. Those weeks with my newborn and older kids were everything but now I'm back at the office and everything feels wro
My job is meetings on top of meetings and by the time I'm done for the day I'm too drained to actually be present with my family. Just scrolling my phone while they talk to me. Thi
Took a step back at work because the grind was killing me. Less money, less prestige, but now I'm home for dinner most nights and not checking email at 10pm. My family actually kno
Manager was pretty cool about it but yeah, hard to stay focused at 100% when you've got family stress, kids getting sick, school pickups, etc. He suggested I 'manage my time better
Been working from home past year and half due to covid and thought I wanted this. Company wants me to stay remote full time. Now I'm worried about my kids seeing me as always avail
Should've fought harder for more time. Two weeks sounds like enough until you're actually in it and realize you barely got settled before heading back. Wife's still recovering, bab
My company let me do Mon-Thu full time with Fridays off. Been doing it for 3 months and honestly I feel like a better dad and employee. One day a week with the kids makes a huge di