Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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This happened last week and I'm still processing. My marketing job got restructured and they're offering me a senior role in a different division. More money, bigger title, also se
I work in sales and it's draining. Come home and literally have nothing left. My wife says I'm "checked out" during family time but like... I have no energy to engage. I'm not scro
So my wife and I started sharing a detailed calendar where we block out who's handling what - pickup, dinner, bedtime, etc. Sounds simple but it's cut down arguments about "why did
I'm thinking about leaving finance to do something less demanding. Currently at a big bank in NYC doing 60+ hour weeks (before kids this was fine, now my 2yo and newborn are home w
So I stepped back from a senior manager role to an individual contributor position at the same company. Less pay (about 15% cut), but way less stress and zero people managing. My d
Been doing 7am-3pm instead of 9-5 for the past 3 months. I requested it because mornings with my kids before school was basically me yelling to hurry up while I'm also getting read
That's it. That's the post. 😅
So when you work from home, there's no commute to decompress. You close your laptop at 5pm and immediately you're DAD MODE. But then at 9pm when the kids are in bed you're suddenly
Management announced we could do 7-3 or 10-6 instead of 9-5. Seemed perfect! I picked 7-3 so I could be there when kids get home. Within a month they "encouraged" us back to normal
Just finalized the deal with my company today. I'm dropping to 80% and taking every Friday off starting next month. Yeah, it's gonna hurt our savings for a bit, but my 8yo only has
This is probably dumb but genuinely asking: after a draining work day how do you switch mental gears and actually be WITH your kids instead of just physically present while your br
Using Forest and it's genuinely changed my WFH productivity. You plant a virtual tree for 25 mins of focused work, it grows while you're working, but dies if you leave the app (to
I have 3 weeks of PTO saved up and my boss literally said "take it when you want, no restrictions." But every time I think about using it, I panic that something will go wrong at w
Been in sales for 12 years but I'm considering a move to project management or operations—something with more predictable hours and less travel. Pay might be similar, maybe slightl
Cool cool cool. Just got told I need to be onsite in Chicago for 2 weeks next month for project kick-off. My daughter has her school play that I'm apparently now missing. My wife h
Just back from 4 days in Boston for a conference. My 3yo asked "Is this the man who lives here?" when I walked in the door. Wife found it hilarious. I found it soul-crushing lol. D
So I've been WFH for about 8 months now and my company is cool with it, but holy hell. My son just turned 3 and he's in daycare 3 days a week. On those days I'm golden—actually get
I've tried meditation apps (too boring), gym (too time-consuming), therapy (good but expensive). What I actually found helps: 20 minutes alone in my car after work before I go insi
Been working from home for 8 months now and I feel like I'm failing at both. My son is 4 and my wife works nights as a nurse, so I'm supposed to be "watching" him while also on Zoo
Twin 3yo boys. Daycare is $2,800/month. $2,800!! My wife makes $58k gross annually. After taxes we're basically breaking even on her paycheck just to cover childcare. We've looked