Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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My company's official policy says "flexible hours" but every time someone takes advantage of it, there's this weird resentment from management. Like, sure, you CAN leave at 3pm if
My wife is back at work 4 weeks postpartum (she wanted to, I didn't push it) and I stayed on for remote work since I had just started a new gig. Thought I'd be able to handle it. C
I've been in finance for 12 years. Good money, terrible hours. Two kids (6 and 3). Wife works part-time as a nurse. Been thinking about pivoting to something that lets me actually
Quick recommendation: if your workplace uses Slack, set up "Focus time" blocks where you're unavailable. I block 9-11am and 2-4pm so I can actually do deep work without 50 Slack me
Oof. That one stings. I was gone Wed-Fri, and when I got home my 7yo was like "oh hey dad" without looking up from his Switch. Wife said he asked about me once on day 2. Meanwhile
Got the paperwork for paternity leave (2 weeks) but my boss keeps hinting that "things are busy" and that maybe I could "ease back in" instead of fully disconnecting. I have the PT
We're paying $2,300/month for daycare for our 2yo. TWENTY-THREE HUNDRED DOLLARS. That's basically a house payment. With my wife's income and mine, after taxes and daycare we're bar
Wanted to share a win because I see a lot of posts here about feeling trapped in demanding jobs. I switched from an aggressive startup role to a B2B SaaS company that lets me do 7-
Not even the exhaustion or the money stuff, it's the guilt. I work in tech, decent job, decent pay, but I'm constantly feeling like I'm NOT ENOUGH. Not enough at work (leaving at 5
My company piloted a 4-day work week (Monday-Thursday) and I got approved for it. Yes, same pay. My Fridays with my 6yo are incredible - we go to the park, get ice cream, just chil
We're paying $2,400/month for one kid in the Seattle area. They just announced a 12% increase effective next month. That's basically another car payment. My wife makes less than wh
Been in sales for 12 years, making six figures, but I'm burnt out and hate the travel. Thinking about going back to school for something more stable with better work-life balance -
We just found out baby #3 is on the way and I'm... not confident about the finances honestly. We managed okay with two but three daycare spots at the same time? Three college funds
Posted about this a few months ago when I was just starting. Been doing freelance UX consulting on nights/weekends alongside my full-time job. Just hit $1,200 last month. It's no
I have a conference next month (3 nights in Vegas) and I hate how this is making me feel. Logically I know my kids will be fine with my wife. But I keep catastrophizing - what if m
Found this app that gamifies getting ready for bed (brushing teeth, putting on pajamas, etc). My 6yo is actually EAGER to do his routine now instead of dragging his feet for 45 min
Just had a "meeting" where my son decided to unmute himself and ask me why I have a "big voice" on the computer. My boss heard everything. I'm done pretending this works. Anyone el
They offered me a director role. 20% raise, more prestige, the whole thing. But it would've meant traveling weekly and managing a team in three time zones. I turned it down. My wi
I work 9-6, get home at 6:30, kids are wound up, bedtime routine is an hour, and by then I'm dead inside. Everyone talks about "being present" with your kids but how? I'm too tired
After a year of chaos, here's what finally clicked: Mon/Wed: In office all day Tue/Thu: Home, do focus work before 9am (kids still sleeping), 10-12 is meetings/collab, then aftern