Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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We keep double-booking ourselves for school events and doctor appointments. Tried Google Calendar shared but we both forget to update it. Someone mentioned Cozi? Also looked at Tas
Took paternity leave for our third baby born last month. Two weeks. TWO. Got back to work Monday and immediately had three meetings, emails piled up, and my boss asking why I wasn'
Context: I've been remote for 2 years since my second kid was born. I negotiated this hard and it's been the only thing keeping me from losing my mind. Now my manager is pushing fo
So my wife just got promoted to VP at her company. It's amazing, she's incredibly deserving, and the money is life-changing for us. But it also means she travels now. Like, every
Got offered a director role at my company in Austin. Would be a $30k bump and honestly great for my career. But it's 40% travel, and my wife and I are already stressed to the max.
My company just announced "flexible work arrangements" so I asked if I could do 7am-3pm instead of 9-5 so I could pick up my kids from school. My manager said "sure!" but now I'm g
So I've been working from home for 2 years now and it was great at first, but my son just turned 3 and started refusing daycare some days. My wife works retail so she can't always
For anyone struggling with the WFH + kids combo, I started hard time-blocking: 6-9am: Deep work only 9-12pm: Meetings/collaborative stuff 12-1pm: Lunch break (actually stepping aw
And honestly? Zero regrets. Last year I went to a conference in California and missed a similar event. She asked me about it when I got home and I could tell she was hurt even thou
I leave at 4:30pm every day to pick up my kids. It's in my employment agreement and everything - I don't work late or weekends to compensate. Not ideal hours but I deliver results.
Took the hardest W's today. Director position opened up in my department - would've been a 15% bump and "the next step" in my career. But it's 60% travel, lots of evenings, and my
My 4yo asks me every morning if I'm going to the airport today and I hate how his face drops when I say yes. I was away for 5 days last week and missed his soccer game. He told his
Got asked to go to Vegas for a 3-day conference next month. It's actually a good opportunity career-wise but my son is still super attached to me (and takes terrible bottles from m
That's it. That's the post. I muted my phone. It can wait til Monday.
Started tracking how I actually spend my time (work, with kids, alone time, household stuff) and it's eye-opening. Turns out I was massively underestimating how much time I spend "
My last straw was missing my 5yo's soccer game because of a 4pm meeting that could've been an email. Just rage-quit during the game when my wife texted me a photo. Told my boss I w
She went back to her job 5 months post-baby and honestly we underestimated how much this would shake things up. She's exhausted, I'm exhausted, baby is in daycare, and somehow the
So I got recruited for a role that explicitly caps hours at 40/week max, slightly lower pay than I make now, but fully remote. On paper it sounds perfect. But part of me is like...
Started freelance writing on the side about 8 months ago when I went down to 4 days/week at my job. Honestly? It's the best decision I made. I make maybe $800-1200/month which help
I work in construction, so some weeks I'm out the door at 5:30am and home at 6:30pm. My kids (4 and 7) are already fed by the time I get there. They're tired. I'm exhausted. We may