Balancing work, family, and the mental load.
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Wanted to share because I know a lot of guys struggle with this. I'm 42, been in marketing for 15 years, and was making good money. But I was traveling 2-3 weeks a month and missin
Started getting migraines last month. Doctor said it's stress-related. My jaw hurts from clenching. I work in tech, constantly worried about layoffs, kids need stuff, wife's been s
We're paying $2,100/month for full-time care for our twins (age 3). I know it could be worse but like... that's a car payment. We've looked into nanny shares but the $30/hour adds
Starting a small consulting thing on the side (maybe 5-8 hours/week) to eventually leave my day job. Currently 52yo with three kids still in college financially. My wife has a soli
She took 18 months off, just went back part-time last month, and I'm realizing I had no idea how much she was handling at home. It's not that I didn't "know" - I knew intellectuall
So my wife and I worked out that I'd do remote 3 days/week to help with childcare costs, but our 4-year-old Mason doesn't understand why daddy is "home but can't play." Yesterday h
Quick question - when something's going on with the kids (like school issues or medical stuff), do you tell your manager? I've always kept it private but lately I'm realizing that
Did anyone else just... stop caring about climbing the ladder? I used to want partner track, VP role, all that. Now I'm 38 with a 4yo and a 6yo and the idea of taking on MORE respo
Does anyone else get absolutely destroyed at 4pm? Like that's when work stuff hits, kids need to be picked up, dinner has to happen, bedtime routine starts, and I just completely f
Using Toggl right now to track work hours and it's depressing—I'm hitting 55+ hours consistently even though my job is 40. Looking for something that doesn't just measure time but
Still kind of shocked this happened lol. Was certain I'd have to choose between moving up and maintaining my WFH flexibility. But my new director actually gets it - she's got two k
Got offered a role at a startup with "flexible hours whenever" and no core hours. Sounds amazing but I'm skeptical. Has anyone actually worked somewhere like this without it turnin
Had a work trip to San Francisco last week. Three days, two nights. While I was gone my 4yo got sick, had a fever, needed extra attention. My wife handled it fine obviously but I f
This is just a vent but UGH. We had a "quick discussion" about Q2 planning and my boss casually mentioned I should plan to be in Denver for a conference for 5 days. I have a 4yo an
We're thinking about doing a nanny share with another family instead of the daycare we're at. Same cost basically, but our 2yo would be home with a caregiver + one other kid. Pros
Not gonna lie, felt weird saying no to my boss today. It was a director-level position that would've been a 40% raise, but it required being in the Atlanta office 3 days a week. Wi
Anyone else struggling with this setup? I'm in a 2BR apartment in Austin and my daughter's daycare has been closed for 2 weeks due to flooding. I work in tech (SaaS sales), so I'm
Our company just partnered with this flex-work platform and I'm thinking about setting up a Tue/Wed/Thu in-office schedule. Has anyone here used it? Worried about whether employers
Never thought I'd see the day. Negotiated into a senior manager role that's 95% remote with maybe 1 week/month travel instead of the typical 4-5 weeks. They actually valued my requ
Wasted 3 months and like $800 trying to start a side hustle while working full-time with two kids. I had this fantasy of making an extra $2k/month. Reality: I had no time, was exha